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One may contrast the FRM with fathers’ rights groups, who openly declare radical feminists to be the enemy and have been the focus of feminist discussions on fatherhood movements (Collier 1995, 1996; Dowd 2000; Fineman 1995).” Father’s Right Movement are against feminists because they feel that their power is been taken off from them by womens.  Men’s right are the voices of males who feel that the rise of women equality is taking away men’s right. They feel that women equality damages their right because having women on the head of the household makes manhood irrelevant.

I found this interesting because I never thought of it as a problem up until today.

Today in class we discussed how there is a difference between domesticating masculinity and masculinizing domesticity.  I believe that there is a difference between.  The difference is that one is meant to leave masculinity at home and the other is taking domestic activities and making them masculine.  In terms of domesticating masculinity, I think that this should be practiced more often.  Men feel like doing things at home, like raising the kids, cleaning, cooking, and things of that sort should be left to the woman while they go out and bring home the bacon.  By doing this, I think they're losing out on a lot of experiences.  Like the FDM's goal, I think men should spend more time at home.  This allows them to learn how to work with their children, care for them, and etc.  I think men take being masculine to a whole different level and they don't realize how much it actually hinders them.  Some men need to realize that there is nothing wrong with doing things in the home and taking on the domestic tasks that women are normally expected to do.

This is an article that promotes the need of man in the family, which responsibilities should men handle as well as how they should relate to their children. In my opinion, fatherhood is very important but not fundamental for children. I was basically raised without a father next me, my parents divorced when I was just five. So my mom was kind of both Father and mother, She raised me, and I most say that although  I was raised by a woman i didnt develop any girly patterns, I suppose is because she raised me as a boy should be raised. I still got to see my father but obviously no very often. I enjoyed playing with him, although It barely happened because we didnt see that much and he was always busy with work and his other family. I honestly didnt really needed him. I missed him though, you get to miss that paternal figure but it wasnt the end of the world. My mom always guided me in the write path, she always tells me that a man a good, should respect one another, and should study to be someone usefull to society. And thats what I believe that fatherhood in family is very important because you get to have distinct experiences in your childhood, but what I truly believe is fundamental in a family is a good mother. They are simply the heart of it.

This text confused me a few times. I feel they're making a simple topic into this complicated thing. Fatherhood is fatherhood, why is it being made into this huge (political?) problem? Men don't have to do what women do in the sense of child care, but put in your share. Help around the house with the chores. There is nothing unmanly about that and there never was and never will be. It's time that people accept that. Taking care of children is not a women's job. It takes two to make a child and two to raise a child.