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For me the scene of Jon/Daenerys after the celebration-feast was the last nail in the coffin. Sure maybe everything that was said is supposed to reflect two people in love facing horrible adversities, but Jons supposed love of his life is

Taking advantage of a drunken man, that she knows, no longer is comfortable with the relationship

Makes the reveal that changed everything about Jon and who he thought he was, basically destroyed the foundation his identity was built on, about all of the things that make it kind of suck for her

Blames him for telling her and ruining a good thing she had going on, nevermind his own feelings, if he is a good enough actor she won't have to concern herself with that

Pressures him into keeping this reveal secret, because again, it would suck for her if it got out.

His devotion isn't enough, means literally nothing to her, because she needs it from everybody or else.

Let's him kneel on the floor, in subordination and doesn't care about a word he says

Makes him choose between her (read her ambition, her obsession with being queen) and his family, who are good people, that by all she knows, want nothing but the best for him!

Prohibits him from getting comfort fron his family, comfort she refuses to give him

Forbids him from being able to trust his family, and have an honest relationship with them

Emotionally manipulates him, again by holding her feelings above him and disregarding his own

That's an abusive relationship, your feelings should matter to your partner and he/she shouldn't make you choose between them and something that is very important to you, is a part of your identity that has nothing to do with them. Isolation is one of the biggest things abusers do to make sure their victim never escapes.

So again, yes Jon telling Dany the Northern armies will honor their promise and follow her orders could be, him trying to prove his devotion to her, but it could also very well mean, that he has seen Dany having a temper tantrum when she doesn't get what she wants, he has heard what she does to people that don't cater to her every whim and do what she says without questioning.

He is protecting people, he is the shield that guards the realms of men and now that the ice threat is dealt with, the fire threat has to be dealt with.

Sansa knows what a terrible ruler looks like. There are enough clues for her to believe, that Dany won't be a good ruler. She is protecting the people too.

And both of them are protecting each other. Jon has heard Dany threatening Sansa, after she wouldn't treat her like Dany believes she should be treated as queen (read: worshipped). Sansa knows what an abusive relationship looks like.

Look, she MUST be able to take a good photo. But why are we not seeing it time and time again? Not every photographer is going to be amazing or original or knock it out of the park every time. But he should have someone who does more often than not! And man…her track record is SO not good from what I’ve seen so far. I don’t understand what she’s going for but I swear to god it feels like I’m in a version of The Emperor’s New Clothes. Like I’m looking at a completely different set of photos from everyone else. 🤷🏻‍♀️

apparently an article elsewhere online recently linked to this old one so some people have found it anew. I have therefore just received the following communiqué which I share with you now (note: there very much IS a place to write comments on the article itself)