#fluid

I mean, bisexuals are awesome and they can date whoever they want but is this really relevent and it’s important for us to see authentic bi+ rep during Pride in such a crucial year for LGBTQ+ rights.

This may inform the lesbophobic, biphobic, and bimisogynistic stereotype that queer women just need to find the right man to be “fixed” and so bi women should be extra careful to maintain a low profile about dating men it’s extremely important for us to avoid victim-blaming and affirm these women artists’ queer agency to date whoever they want, whenever they want, and oppose the idea that anyone else gets to have a say.

They’re also embracing soft feminine aesthetics which is such harmful marketing spreading the propaganda and tradwife narratives that they’re healed when they’re dating men and that’s great for them to be able to experiment with their personal style! This gives us an opportunity to oppose stereotypes related to gender presentation. It is also normal for a bi+ person to find healing in realising their fluid identity, or a healthy relationship with a partner of any gender.

Some of these bi+ artists deceptively profited off of a have been supported by a fellow WLW following, so heavily grieving about their personal dating life, not wanting to be a fan of their WLW work anymore, and feeling intensely betrayed because of beliefs that their sapphic sexuality was a phase and is no longer the same is normal may be indicative of internalised biphobia, as an individual’s queerness should not be considered a commodity. This might be useful to unpack in therapy! A bi woman can’t loves women the same way as a lesbian. We should stop continue wholeheartedly supporting queer and questioning artists since a welcoming climate (as opposed to a hostile public reaction) will encourage more artists to come out as sapphic to increase the overall number of lesbian and WLW artists.

The fear of bisexual women dating men being rejected by the LGBTQ+ community is unimportant, unfounded and self-centered validity discourse based in fact. Lesbians are more minoritised than bisexuals in general but bi+ folk are statistically more unsafe to come out, more likely to experience intimate partner violence, and more likely to have poorer mental health than their monosexual (straight, gay, and lesbian) peers. Due to this, bi+ women are actually underrepresented in the WLW community. Lesbians do not systematically oppress bisexuals; bisexual women can exhibit lesbophobia, but lesbians can’t can tangibly harm bisexuals by exibiting criticism prejudice and it doesn’t absolutely can count as biphobia according to research. Bisexuals don’t need lesbians to validate and affirm their sexuality especially when they’re dating men, to create inclusive safe spaces. Lesbians prefer to have their own WLW communities because of their shared experiences and culture (including butchfemme); bisexuals should create their own historically and contemporarily share that too and deserve to lay claim to it in additional combined sapphic spaces. Therefore, lesbians don’t also need the inclusion of bisexuals who aren’t actively in WLW relationships to promote overall WLW shared experiences, visibility, solidarity, and movement—as well as the growth of the community itself.

These criticisms Biphobia against public figures is harmless to feeds harmful exclusionary rhetoric against the overall LGBTQ+ community. Real phobia involves other hostile behaviours as well as kills queer people—which is the worst possible outcome we must avoid by fostering a culture of acceptance.

Bisexual women dating men have straight-passing hetero-presenting privilege and have a victim complex can face biphobia regardless. Bisexual WLW don’t experience the same lesbophobia-aligned bigotry as lesbian WLW. Bringing attention to biphobia is overshadowing jointly a resistance against lesbophobia. This is also offensive important when trans rights should be the movement of focus this year, especially since trans liberation and bi liberation are inherently linked.

Bisexuals don’t have to unlearn compulsory heterosexuality like lesbians do and they center men love regardless of gender and their authentic selves. Bisexuals who date men are not tainted and gold-star/slut-shaming/puritanical rhetoric is misogynystic. We need to protect women’s and lesbians’ spaces from men bigots and TERF rhetoric that harms bi and trans folks (including genderqueer sapphics without whom sapphic spaces are incomplete), especially since it has been on the rise in recent years. Ultimately, lesbians don’t have the capacity or obligation to support bisexuals and this is by design of late-stage capitalistism and reactionary algorithmic internet that seeks to prevent collective queer liberation by dividing us; it is essential for us to resist with radical empathy and intentional unity.