#findingaplace

It’s not just about having a disability, or facing prejudice based on a ‘difference,’ there are many reasons why no matter what you do, your face doesn’t fit.

It’s also not about trying to work harder, to change the way you are just to fit in or working on what you think, others think is the problem. No matter what you do if attitudes don’t change you may never fit in.

Issues with fitting in start with institutions as far back as a child. Just going to school, can see children beginning to question their place and whether they ‘fit in.’ When it comes to physical or mental disability, we don’t always fit in.

Many people fail to see that although we may present differently, underneath we are no different to anyone else, but when it begins to feel like no matter what you do, you’ll never be good enough, then it’s time to walk away.

When anyone goes out of their way to make you feel awkward, inadequate, or you’re the problem, then you know it’s time to walk away. It’s better to quit whilst you’re winning, rather than wait to be pushed and even if you’re not pushed, it may not stop people making things difficult.

If you believe in yourself, you will walk away. It’s always important to fit in and find your own place, a place that you’re comfortable with.

“Verbal abuse (also verbal attack or verbal assault) is the act of forcefully criticizing, insulting, or denouncing another person.  Characterized by underlying anger and hostility, it is a destructive form of communication intended to harm the self-concept of the other person and produce negative emotions.” – Wikipedia

Over the years I have lived with abuse, trauma and neglect. I have also lived a dysfunctional life. Whichever way you look at my story, I have been through the mill, but I am lucky that through my blog, I continue to find an understanding on my experiences and that helps me with the healing process.

Any form of abuse, trauma and neglect is not something you forget, it’s something you’ve lived. It’s something you find a place for until you can find a way through. It is important to try to move on from the experience.

If anyone mentally or emotionally treats you badly or makes personal remarks about you, if someone physically hurts or verbally abuses you, if someone emotionally neglects or sexually abuses you, if someone is being aggressive towards you, it is important you find a place where you can feel and stay mentally safe.

It is important to speak out against any form of abuse. Unless we put a stop to the abuse by walking away, we're inadvertently condoning abuse.