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SO more than likely whether, you're fan or a hater if you've been on TikTok lately, you more than likely have been inundated with the egg apron Ballerina Farm debacle on the platform. I believe it was over a week ago when the internet was on sent into a collective rage when Julliard graduate, pageant winner Hannah Neeleman received only an egg gathering apron from her billionaire heir husband as a birthday gift. The gift in and of itself was not the issue, but instead that Hannah had requested that her (Jet Blue heir) husband take her to Greece for her birthday so that she could have time away from their 8 children. Her husband made the executive decision to give her what he decided she should have a tool to perform for labor for him and his children. Hannah a talented ballerina and former homeschool kid, gently smiled with sad eyes as she politely accepted her "gift". Everyone is in an uproar for Hannah which I get, but instead I think this is a learning opportunity. Here are 5 short takeaways I got from what I am calling the egg apron debacle.\

1. A man having money does NOT mean he is generous. Hannah's husband is a billionaire heir, meaning he's not even having to work hard for the money he receives. Even with his money he still didn't use his resources to give her rest, relaxation, and happiness. Now, this isn't a dog whistle to date broke men, NOT AT ALL. Instead every woman should aim to date a stable, generous man (if she wants to deal with men at all). Misogyny comes in all forms, classes, and races. Be sure that your man sees you as more than just an extension of him.

2. Never give up your education, career, or job for a man simply because of his net worth or promises. At one point I saw a woman say how Hannah at one point built a dance studio on their massive farm, and how it was taken for her in order for it to be a place to homeschool their 8 children. This not only disturbed me, but it also told me what kind of man Hannah married. A man who loves you wants you to have passions for things outside of him and the family you create. A man that loves you will support you pursuing your dreams and not only watch your do it, but help emotionally, financially, and physically to help you achieve your dream. Still have something for you. I believe she actually has the TikTok and blog for herself to earn her own money, hopefully she has a separate account in case she ever needs to leave.

3. Don't compare your entire life to anyone's 30 second reel. So many women of all ages still look up to Hannah Neeleman. She is so accomplished and yet, when she speaks of her life now and her farm. She looks sad, overwhelmed, and overworked. Even with all that said, we don't know her despite how tragic some aspects of her life may look to outsiders, she may look her life. She may be used to her husband ignoring her wishes, she may see meaning in sacrifices she makes. She may have even known that the internet would lose it over her birthday present and may be rage baiting. All we know is what we are allowed to see and even though many women may be able to empathize and even commiserate with her about men, the reality is we don't really know her, her husband, or her real situation.

In the comments tell what you thought about the situation. Did you hear anything about this story? I am excited to discuss this topic.