Question One: Oscar, I have a couple that are friends that drive me crazy. Every time they see me, they tell me their same sad story repeatedly. I am tired of it but I really care about them what do I do? How do I help them? Answer: When you love and respect yourself more, you will make clear to them that you have heard their story enough. They need to work on a solution. You are going to love them enough to work it out. When they want to see you and you are available you will work them in provided they understand their feel sorry for me story will get no airtime. Question Two: Oscar, I have these outrageous and incredible thoughts coming in my head. Sometimes they seem to want me to do things I would never do. Why is this happening to me? I am afraid of these thoughts. Help me! Answer: I understand your feelings. Most of us have had thoughts like that pass through our heads. Here is what you must understand. These thoughts are like radio and tv channels you do not want to watch. When you get what you do not want, you change stations or change channels. Know this. It is one thing to discover a thought in our minds that we would never intentionally think. It is another to attach to them and be afraid we act on them. Three course of action are available to you 1. Know that you are not you thoughts. You are your actions. 2. Place a rubber band on your left wrist. Whenever thoughts come, snap you wrist with the rubber band and feel the sting. This will help you disassociate from the thought. 3. When the thoughts come, immediately exhale as hard as you can as if to blow them away from you. These three interventions should work. If you feel your situation becomes worse, let’s talk one on one more. #olove #askoscartuesdays #askmequestions#sadstory #feelsorry #questionsandanswers #askquestions #runnngscared #scaredofthedark#dontbeafraid #inquire #askmeanything #notafraid #askbelievereceive #askquestions #fears #quiz#fearfactor #intrusivethoughts #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthmatters #problemsolving #selflovefirst#selflovetips #selfloveclub #selflovejourney#selfhelpbook #selfhelptools (at Mesa, Arizona) https://www.instagram.com/p/BtNaZEpB9VW/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1a1tggcjjy6sp