#faildom

I’ve been to plenty of actor fandoms where the hate and anti- attitude could get quite loud, sickening, and even scary. Yet, I’ve never seen a fandom so filled with people who spend their time trashing, defaming, insulting, bullying the actor directly on SM, committing libel against the actor, yet still maintaining they are fans. The ones I alluded to in the other fandoms, would sometimes even affirm themselves as proud haters, but they would rather play stab the finger and miss thirty times in a row, before calling themselves fans or sympathizers of said actor, and get stuck cleaning a five year worth of stable dung, before associating with the actor’s fans. Which at least is more honest than what goes on in Hiddleston’s “fan”dom.

The insistence that this continuous bashing is nothing but healthy criticism, even gets me worried, sometimes: do these people live or lived in relationships where gaslighting and humiliation was so recurrent, they came to consider that as normal? Are they living in messed up realities where abuse equals love? “I only do this because I love you!” kind of thing? Troubling. But then upon farther analyses, it’s clear a few of these individuals do pride themselves in being the absolute most destructive they can against Tom, and state so. But, then, why call themselves “fans”? In other corners of the internet, a community that spends their time assassinating the character of a given target, to then post some pics and lust over the body parts, followed by some more degrading and spiteful insults, is defined with other adjectives.  

You mean a permissive moment doesn’t equate to a life-time of revoked consent? Get out of here! :D

It’s little to no surprise, to watch *that* side of, let’s call it, “fandom”, get miffed over Tom asserting himself, absolutely appalled at the thought they can’t take the entire arm once somebody gives them a hand (or the finger). After all, these are celebs! Things! Not people!!

It’s clear they get off on watching Tom get humiliated and generally trashed by the media (look at the few of them already celebrating at the mere thought of the media sharpening their knifes to do him for good...), but, hélas, it can’t always be the case. 

Come on: you know this is less about you wanting Tom to speak about anything, and more about creating needless drama, mad you don’t get to push him in to limelight, where Tom can say something where he mistakenly puts a comma in the wrong place, and you get more excuses to drag and shame him some more, while showing how perfect you are.

Let me see if I got this straight: so, apparently a few of the most destructive and insidious rumors against Tom that plagued the media, actually got planted by, erm..., “fans”, but instead everybody is fixated on a pack of colorful screen caps of fantasies from some tumblr, whose owner was clearly never playing with the full deck to begin with?

Watching “fans” (or out anti-Tom tumblrs collectively being applauded by “fans”? Hard to tell, at this point) make a mockery out of Tom for whatever he chooses to wear on his down time, on pap shots.* Seems like these people like to tell themselves Tom himself arranges for these shots to happen, as a way to excuse their mockery and hate, and usage of somebody else’s daily life as if it was a fashion show for their own private entertainment, but, come on... For this, they have to sell themselves the story paps are just a bunch of innocent angels that fly by only upon request, which, ultimately, is an even more delusional stance than whatever “stan” or “nanny” benign view might hold over Tom, from whom they so much want to distance themselves. Or, of course, they might simply not give a damn these pictures where most likely taken with no consent from the subject, and are more worried about keep on flexing their trashTom muscles because, hey, displaying a hint of basic empathy or respect is for “stans” and “nannys”!

*By the way, celebs wearing the same clothes over and over, it’s a common strategy to lower the value of pap shots. But even if that’s not the case, I’m sure if Tom changed clothes on the regular, you all would be ragging and trashing on him for being an “attention whore” or an ostentatious vain posh. So why shouldn’t Tom dress what he damn wants, while at the same time lowering the value of intrusive pictures (that he himself payed for...?!)