#evtwi

hm. what i would do and what you probs should do might not perfectly match up.

but. 

1. do! not! resent! them! it ain’t their fault they don’t realize you’re amazing. accept the fact, but do not hate them for it.

2. yes, pity yourself. it is sad when this happens. allow yourself to wallow. some.

3. do not indulge yourself with crying over them. trust me, i know from experience, this generally makes it worse. if you need to avoid them, do so regardless of how your relationship with them may be affected. take some time off from them if you need it!

4. try to find someone else who you also care about and talk to them, or just enjoy their company and realize that there are other really cool people who DO return your affections. if you can’t seem to find anyone, come to me. 

5. do things that make you happy! instead of writing poetry about them, which will make you think more about them in a //crying why// way, try maybe singing awesome songs (NOT love songs preferably) or playing games, or reading books or drawing cool art that is not of them or whatever makes you happy!

and, though this can be dangerously close to indulging yourself, you may find writing a letter to them or just writing about your feelings may help. if it’s intensely lovey/exasperated-be-my-friend stuff… burn it. make the feelings disappear. let it… go. let it go. the past is in the past. turn away, slam the door.

basically, just be sad, don’t resent them, and try to do other stuff and not dwell on it. because that really doesn’t help. if you find yourself lapsing, talk to them. there are plenty of places to vent (eg, confession blogs, my inbox at any time, numerous friends, your cutie little diary or if you don’t have one that’s fine)