i hope that one day the system community can truly leave behind the phrase "oh mommy and daddy were mean to you and now-"
it's diminishing of abuse. to put it very simply, it is minimizing parental emotional abuse and making it seem frivolous and childish.
i can't tell someone whether or not they can't use it to describe their own abuse, i am sure they're well aware of the mental consequences of trivializing their own trauma.
but for fuck's sake, can't we stop using it when describing other people?
even if you're trying to convey the fact that trauma doesn't matter and that you accept everyone, there are much less mean ways to go about it. there are ways of phrasing that, that are leagues kinder. so please do so.