Eros Task #001
How would you describe your desired relationship?
Damn, that’s certainly not a one word answer kind of question, is it? Ideally, I want the kind of relationship that's fully and completely seeped in trust. My trust isn’t something I give with ease, nor is it something I expect others to freely offer either. Once a strong mutual trust is established, I think that’s when a relationship can not only exist, but thrive as well. When you trust someone so wholly to push you and to allow you to push them? The sky’s the limit!
In addition to love and affection, what are your main reasons for wanting a relationship?
What are anyone’s reasons for wanting a relationship? Companionship and support from and with someone I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally attracted to. I want a relationship to have someone to lead a life with them that we both find pleasing and fulfilling. While I’m certainly not unhappy single, I think it would be nice to have someone to come home to- or to be home for someone else.
What is most likely to make you interested in someone?
A good sense of humor, a kind heart, a bit of sass, a pretty smile. To be honest, there’s a lot of things I look for in a potential partner, the things that traditionally catch my attention are the little things. Beyond the physical, I’m interested in people who know how to act, if that makes sense? I see the way they walk on the street, listen to how they speak to other people- especially people they don’t know. Whether they seem genuine. The first thing that makes me lose interest is feeling like someone is fronting or presenting. I don’t want to get to know a character or see a show. I want to know the person, not who they think I want them to be.
Let’s say you and your partner have been invited to a friend’s wedding. As you get ready for the party, which thoughts are you most likely to be thinking?
I haven’t been to a whole lot of weddings, but first and foremost, I’d probably be thinking about the wedding cake, to be honest. There’s no cake like a wedding cake. That’s a pretty quick thought, though, so after, I’d probably be thinking about my friend and their spouse to be- likely chatting with my partner about my friend if they’ve not known each other long, and discussing the decor and the like. I’m sure I’d get lost in thought a few times, considering my partner and how nice I know they’d look. Hopefully they won’t mind if I spill some of my food on myself, because let’s be real, that’s a chronic worry.Â
Why do you think you’re single?
If I knew, whew, trust I’d be a gajillionaire by now! But, look, in all honesty, I’ve been told I’m a total workaholic- though I don’t think that’s fair... I mean, I’m a firefighter- we work long shifts, but ya girl knows how to have a good time. The other? I’m told I’m hard to get a read on. My partner at the station says the real problem is that I’m an open book with pages torn out. He thinks he’s Shakespeare incarnate, I think. But yeah, those’ve been the main criticisms of ex’s past.Â
If you find a book or article particularly interesting, do you want your partner to read it as well?
I’m not really a big reader, so no? I get the notion of this question, but I think the answer is still no. Actually, it’s more of a maybe. I think common interests are important, but I can also appreciate that my partner and I may not have all the same interests. I think it’s important that my partner be willing to allow me to talk about them, however, and listen to the best of their ability- the same as I would. But on the whole, predominantly if it’s something we share an interest in.
What do you think about cheating in a relationship?
What do I think about it? Two words: I don’t. Cheating is a hard no in my books. Period end of story.
What do you want your partner to like about you?
I mean, in a perfect world, everything? Actually, nah, I’m going to recant that statement. I want my partner to like my positive traits, and respect my negative traits. Not to *like* them, per se, but to have the patience and respect for and towards me to give me the space and support for me to embrace personal growth. They don’t have to like everything about me, but I would want them to be able to love everything about me, the good and bad. The same as I’d expect myself to in return, if that makes sense...
In BDSM, do you see yourself as a specific subtype (brat, sadist, pet, rigger…) or do you prefer exploration?
Exploration, full stop. Or, like, not stop? I like to think of myself as the type to give just about anything a try or three. It’s hard to get a feel for something the first- or even second- time around. But yeah, no, across the board, I like to go with what and how my partner and I are feeling or what we need as a couple or as individuals. Do I have my favorite kinks and hard limits? Of course! But overall, yeah, I’m definitely one for exploration.
What draws you to your preferred BDSM role?
The ease of it. I like that I can take either role, depending on how I’m feeling or what I’m looking for in a scene. I gain a lot of satisfaction from being able to be a good Dominant- to be trusted with a submissive to care for and guide. But I also enjoy being able to put myself in the hands of others, to not have to worry about anything but meeting my Dominant’s needs and offering them my full and complete submission. Being a switch offers me a versatility that I’ve come to value strongly in the scope and sphere of BDSM.
