okay i very much appreciate all the people calling for solidarity between trans people. (i love seeing solidarity posts no matter the time of year.) but a lot of the calls for peace imply there’s a transmasc vs transfem thing happening (and by extension a transandrophobia vs transmisogyny as opposing concepts thing). there is not.
most transfems and transmascs here probably get along just fine. imo the real battle isn't between two distinct groups of people but rather, between ideas, and tendencies. yes, you can trace a lot of "infighting" to disputes between people who recognize transandrophobia and those who don’t, but what i'm getting at here is—those stances are built upon fundamentally different worldviews. don't let people convince you it's about semantics (i.e., the "misandry isn't real" bit, the "don't call it transandrophobia" bit) or other surface level bullshit.
if you strip away all the dressing, the actual tension is between a exclusive (often separatist) inclination and an inclusive one. it's conditional queerness and unconditional queerness. it's rigid essentialism posed against “you can do what you want forever.” <insert other relevant battle of abstract ideas here>
moreover, you can't call for solidarity if definitions between groups (who hold the aforementioned ideas) aren't the same. (solidarity as "stand together" based on common interests/goals vs solidarity as "stand with us and our ideas".) there's a reason why calls for trans unity don't always work.
this isn't meant to be a "it's hopeless" kind of post, to be clear. i think things can change and will change through more tangible forms of action than posting online. i just don't find calls for solidarity productive in cases where it isn't on the table to begin with.
