emanonshatters replied to your post āTrying to find a relationship when youāre a hardcore introvert is...ā
Perhaps a more salient question to ask yourself isnāt ādo I want to do this?ā but rather ādo I want to have done this?ā Iām not saying those will ever have different answers, but they sometimes might.
If youāre asking how I feel going into things vs. looking back on things-- thatās kind of my problem? The fact that those two answers are almost always different? Like I generally go into things with anĀ āoh maybe thisāll be funā attitude, but looking back, Iām almost always likeĀ ādang, that wouldāve been so much more fun had I done it alone.āĀ
I guess in terms of what I want in a relationship, speaking as a massive introvert...maybe itās best to illustrate in an example. My friend has a boyfriend, who is also a massive introvert-- except when it comes to her. Admittedly, I donāt know him that well, but being around her re-charges him and itās amazing to see. This is the type of guy who spends most of his time alone in his room, takes hours to text back, and has probably spoken a total of 500 words to me during the entire time Iāve known him, but the night he met my friend, he talked to her for hours and texted her til 4 am in the morning. And maybe Iām hoping for too much, but all I want in a first date is not only to go,Ā āwow, that was a lot of funā but alsoĀ āwow, I donāt want this to end.āĀ
