Wedding planning is officially happening! This week, I found my dress and shoes! I have my entireĀ ālookā figured out and can finally, slowly, start planning. The first piece has fallen into place. Iāve also started a (mild) workout regimen so my off-the-rack dress will fit me perfectly... in 14 months.Ā
funny story: when trying on dresses, it mightāve been the first or second dress I put on (which was all wrong for me, but I wanted to rule out styles), the shopgirl plopped a veil on my head (again, all wrong for me) and I nearly blacked out. It was completely overwhelming. It felt so wrong, but in aĀ āliving someone elseās lifeā sort of way, not a āwhy am I getting marriedā way. I almost started crying right there on the platform. Disorienting is probably the best way to describe it. Like, yeah, I was just playing dress-up and had no commitment to buy the dress or veil, but the way weddings are packaged tend to beĀ ābest version of youā messaging and I honestly didnāt recognize myself in the mirror in that moment. For what itās worth, my dress is honestly the polar opposite of, well, actually, 99% of the other dresses I tried on that day. And it really does feel likeĀ āmeā as a dress, which I honestly never expected Iād experience. Itās difficult to understand the power of (seriously) trying on wedding dresses without having done so, but it was a bizarrely emotional experience.
next up: the guest list, which has been giving me anxiety basically since the beginning and has been the no.1 reason I hadnāt started planning prior to happening upon my dress (sheer luck). Eventually. I still have 3 group projects and a research project to finish up in the next 4 weeks, which (very) sadly take priority right now.Ā