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1) style your hair the way YOU want. Can be a traditionally masc or fem style, something unique- it doesn't matter!

2) Buy clothes you like- again! Masc/Fem- doesn't matter! Your clothes have no gender

3) Buy a binder IF you want to. not every AFAB non-binary person wants to bind! Nor should we always assume non-binary is inheritanly a AFAB masc looking experience. The same goes for AMAB non-binary people and tucking

I would walk over to the gardens and I would remember the goldfish that died and then two weeks later its companion, who could not deal with the grief. and I would know they would be skeletons now and I would remember the sounds of the children playing on the school ground across from it. And I remember the afternoons we would sit together on the fence, as one of us after another learned to ride our little bikes, first with little wheels on the side, and then without them, but with dad’s hands holding your shoulders, and then without dad’s hands but with his encouragement. And then the floating feeling of being able to ride without falling. in snow and in rain and in sun and in winds. And I remember the giant pink blossom tree whose falling petals we would collect, soft and fragrant. And the sand cakes we would bake instead of castles we would built. And I would see the bathroom and remember all those evenings before school. And all those evenings I looked at my dad standing in front of the mirror as he shaved his face with a razor knife because he was old school like that.

I would also remember the first heartbreaks I felt in my childhood as i revisit my teenage bedroom, so small and untidy as always