Returning to college, or even going to college when no one else in your family ever has, is an expensive endeavor. Thanks to the economy, many families are struggling to make ends meet even as they prepare to send their children off to college for the first time. These children, now plunged into the world commonly known as “Adult” are no strangers to the world, although we would like to think of them as so. For many of today’s new college students, they have taken up the mantle of Adulthood by giving up portions of their childhood in order to help feed their families by working as many hours as they can, even while finishing high school. Often, by the time they have taken their seat in their first official college class, they have already come to know of the importance of a budget and preparing for emergencies by building some sort of savings thanks to watching their parents struggle with an unplanned termination of employment.
These students are the ones that refuse to smoke, drink, and believe, almost religiously, in the power of Brown-Bagging-It with a variety of cheap meals that fill one up. Often times, when asked if they want to take part in an impromptu outing with friends, they decline and spend the evening at home paying the month’s bills. Even at the age of 18, these students worship the power of the coupon and learn to live without most of the luxury items that we mistake as necessities in today’s world. They learn to use the WiFi at school for tasks such as checking Facebook and playing games and boast a decade old television in their efficiency apartments for the sole purpose of watching movies from a collection that hasn’t been updating in years. They have memorized the quickest path to the closest thrift store and spend at least a month saving for their trips so that when their old shoes finally give away, they have the money to buy another pair.
And to think, that’s just the first-time college student that is within the age grouping known as Traditional (Undergraduates age 18-24). Imagine life for a non-Traditional student (Undergraduate age 25+). To help you understand their umber complex life, let’s take a page from the life of one such student:
It’s 4:30 in the morning when your alarm screams into your ear. Painfully, you silence the alarm and pray for 5 more minutes as you groan into your pillow. The small speaker on your nightstand, however, plays a role in the life of someone that has other plans for you. The sound coming from its simple white surface and hidden speaker is that of your ailing mother who suffers from dementia. She is crying out for help because the sound of your alarm pulled her from her sleep and now she is confused and scared. You pull yourself from your bed and wrap your robe tightly around you and you scuttle down the hall to her aid, ignoring the overwhelming need to use the bathroom for the first time in hours.
You calm your mother down successfully and give her the morning’s dose of medication. Once she drifts off to sleep in her chair to the lullaby of the TV as it plays its who-dun-it programming, you slip back to your room to begin your day. You rush to gather your uniform, towel, and utensils as your begin to run your shower. You finally relieve yourself just before jumping into the warm water that helps undo the kinks in your back from your degenerative disc disease, bulging discs, and herniated discs, all of which are signs of a life spent doing the hard jobs just to help feed your family. Once the warm water has put the pain in your back into a range that you find adaptable, you rush to wash your hair, body, and to brush your teeth while rinsing the conditioner from your hair. Finally, you jump from the shower, towel dry as quickly as you can, and shrug on your blue nursing uniform, the same one you’ve worn for nearly 30 years. You pull on your shoes as you step from your bedroom and into the kitchen and you hear your husband’s alarm sounding for him to begin his own day of hard labor.
You pull the silver packaging of a room temperature poptarte from the blue box on the counter and pick up your morning Mountain Dew or coffee and turn around to see the pitiful face of your loyal dog. You place your breakfast on the counter and fill his bowls full of food and water and return to your ailing mother as she calls for you again. After settling her again, you remember that your daughter offered to stay home today to take care of your mother and you travel further down the hall to wake her earlier than the agreed upon time because your mother is having a harder time this morning than usual. Once your daughter is raised from her deep slumber, you pick up your purse, keys, and umbrella and run out the door to begin your hour long drive to work where you will work another 12+ hour shift. Half way through your commute, your stomach growls loudly and you realize that you left your breakfast and caffeine on the kitchen counter where the dog has, undoubtably, helped himself to it.
You finally arrive at work only to discover that you have been assigned the two sickest patients in the entire unit. Just as you buck up to take on the challenge, a Code has been called two units away and you are on the day’s Code team so you fall in line to run to the call as fast as you can. You spend an hour saving the life of a father of 4 and you are completely exhausted by the time you return to your patients. Now, your boss arrives to inform you that it was time for your annual review and that she needs to see you as soon as possible and before you get in too deep with your patients. You hope that the meeting only lasts a couple of minutes because you still have to assess your patients and read the orders of their doctors for their medications. Instead, the meeting takes just over an hour as your boss points out every little thing you’ve done wrong in the past year, including the day that you had to call out because your mother was sick and needed to see the doctor in order to get some medicine that did not interact negatively with the laundry list of meds that she is already on.
Finally, the meeting is over and you can begin working with your patients. You get into the swing of things only for yet another Code to be called, this time, 5 units away. It will be a miracle if you manage to get anything done today. You begin to pray that your patients will make it through the day and when you return to your unit, you discover that the doctor of one of such patients has called and demanded that you call back because he wants to know the reason as to why you were so late to assess his patient.
This tug-o-war lasts until the end of your shift where you spend almost 2 full hours catching up on paperwork. Meanwhile, you know that your family is at home, not wanting to begin dinner without you and staring at it as it grows cold. Finally, you check your last box and make your final signature and begin your long drive home where you arrive well after 11 pm. By now, your feet and legs are painfully swollen and you’re so tired that you can’t even bother with the thought of eating, even if you missed breakfast and lunch today. Still, for your family’s sake, you seat yourself at the table and force yourself to eat something as your mother tells you stories inspired by the day’s hallucinations. That is when you realize that you smell the fresh scent of floor cleaner and your daughter proceeds to inform you that your mother had locked herself into the bathroom and flooded it during the day.
Most young women would be angry at such an event, but, you see your daughter struggle to smile against her own exhaustion. She waits until you are done with your dinner before she clears the table and cleans up the kitchen. It is then that you offer to help with her homework because you remember that she has a large essay due very soon. She smiles pleasantly and fetches her rough draft and places it in front of you and begins to bombard you with questions until she notices that you have fallen asleep with your chin in your hand and a pen pressed to the paper. Gently, your husband wakes you and helps you to bed as the clock turns to half-passed-midnight. You barely begin to dream when your alarm sounds against at 4:30 in the morning for another day.
However, this day is slightly different from the day before. Today is your off day but instead of taking time to curl up with a book written by your favorite author or going out for a small shopping trip, you’re at home to take care of your mother while your husband is at work and your children at school. Along with caring for your mother, whose more physical ailments are in full swing today, you are paying the bills. You pay the mortgage, the light bill, the water bill, the television bill, and the car notes. You decide to wait to pay your car insurance because the cost of your health benefits have gone up again this month and you just don’t have the money to pay the insurance and still be able to buy groceries this evening. The thought of the groceries reminds you that you have a stack of coupons that need your attention and you start to feel hopeful that you can pay for your car insurance after all, if you can save enough with your coupons. [This concludes the story segment of this post.]
Now that you have met the average student of today, both Traditional and Non-Tradition, you begin to wonder why Universities such Alabama in Tuscaloosa, Alabama, require so many useless programs for their students. Between the require on-campus living for students with less than 24 credit hours (at least for certain programs), a required meal plan for Undergraduates attending 9 credit hours or more, and gym membership fees hidden in the cost of attendance, and the inability to opt out of these programs or others in order to save money where a student can, it is no wonder why so many students are leaving these larger universities to either attend a far cheaper school or are just opting to work and hope that they have the chance to go to school in the future.
However, when students wait, they discover, with a severe degree of disgust, that the welcoming wagon for Non-Traditional students are large schools like the University of Alabama is non-existent. In many ways, Non-Traditional students are Undergraduates in name only are left to fend for themselves in terms of coming up with the funding to cover the ever expanding cost of education. Larger colleges are sickeningly unprepared for the older student and thus offer little to no financial assistance for them and are often times ill-equipped to address their needs or questions and seem to take offense when a student requests to opt out of some of the programs at the university such as the infamous Dining Plan.
We will discuss the Dining Plan in the next blog. Thanks for reading and please pass the word around about this new blog! Also, stay tuned to learn information about a petition to the University of Alabama network to allow students to opt out of programs upon request.