We tend to spend our life dreaming and hoping. Wondering “what if i did this” or “what if he did that” and it all started in childhood as we would try to figure things out on our own. "Ooooo, whats that light coming from the stove?" --We would think.Eventually finding out the hard way, ending up with a bandage on our finger.     As we grow older, this curiosity gets more and more complicated. What if he doesn’t like me? What if I’m not accepted? Did I do this right?…the list goes on. Even as adults, in healthy relationships, with a good job still wonder what if.  Yet one thing missing is positivity. What if he does like me? What if I am accepted? What's technically right anyways? Life is different for everyone.  We all grow up differently, we end up in different places, we fall in love with different people. Which in fact makes us all the exact same. We are living our lives.  We are choosing to wake up every day, and make choices that effect our life and those choices may be different but are still choices we make as people. Sometimes, in the midst of the chaos, the relationships, the priorities, we just need to find time to appreciate who we are.  Look in the mirror and realize, no one else is you. When you are able to appreciate yourself, you will understand that whether or not something happens, you will still be who you are. And being you is so much more than any house, any car or any shiny piece of jewelry.  Your presence brightens up the lives of others whether you notice it or not.   Do you realize that at a funeral, people don’t bring gifts. Why would they? All they want is for you to be alive and back in their lives. People mourn when they lose a person they cared for but do people mourn the loss of a car? Or can they just save up to get another one? You can’t replace someone that's irreplaceable, right? Spend your life in happiness and in love. Be happy to be alive and happy to know that there are people who care about you and spread love to those who could use a little. Because if there is one thing to be positive about, it is that you are you.  Being yourself will make all your dreams come true and all your what-ifs disappear.