zoom: do some writing on éomer back. her first impressions, her changing impressions, was he what she expected, anything u wanna.
oh boy oh boy oh boy oh boy okay. gonna run wild and just do this according to our initially political match plotting:
like éomer, the first time that she sees him is during the coronation and the next is at faramir and éowyn’s wedding. she notices him, of course, and thinks he’s hansome. but the drinking and the rowdiness in the rohirric celebrations take her a little by surprise. all she really knows of him are stories told by her father and her brothers, including eomer’s almost bloodthirsty ferocity on the battlefield, shouting death, running headfirst into hopeless odds, etc. she’s a little intimidated by it all, and it makes her shy around him. any interactions they may have had in that time period are brief and polite and very formal : her father making introductions, for example.
when her father begins to speak of arranging a marriage between them, lothiriel is hesitant at first. cautious. but by now she has heard other stories of éomer, stories that go beyond his shouts of “death!” upon the battlefield. she knows that he is a good man, and that his land is in need of help, and that a match between them would certainly be smart. so she agrees to consider it, if éomer agrees, and her father sends the suggestion. (she trusts her father completely, and trusts his judge of character. if he believes it is a good match, she’s certainly willing to consider it.)
when éomer comes to dol amroth to settle the matter of the betrothal, her impressions of him begin to change. it isn’t difficult to see that he is a good man, that he would treat her well, that the match truly is a good idea. her opinion of him is sealed when he lets her know he would not go through with it if she did not like the match. it’s at that moment that she knows, knows, that she’s going to accept.
after they’re wed, it still takes her a while to get used to him. rohan is very different, he’s different in his ways and manner than anyone she has ever known, and she’s a little shy for the very beginning of their marriage. but over and over again he treats her so well and so gently that she begins to trust him easily. and after she begins to trust him, it is easy for him to grow to like him enormously….and then, from there, it’s a very quick fall into love. and when she does fall, she falls hard. (lothiriel doesn’t do love by halves. she doesn’t know how.)
even after she falls in love with him, though, she isn’t really sure how to say it. éomer is the first man she has ever truly fallen in love with, and she’s a little bit frightened by it. most of all, she’s frightened about what would happen if she told him and he didn’t love her. if he was only treating her well because he was good and would have treated anyone as well. and while she’s more open with him, more easily affectionate (taking his hand, touching or kissing his cheek, etc) she probably starts to seem? a little skittish? stopping herself from saying things, etc. once they both admit how they feel, though, that pretty much disappears entirely.
and after that, she’s just….entirely his partner. she loves him, she supports him, she learns from him and teaches him. (imagine éomer teaching her rohirric and lothiriel teaching him sindarin - - - or quenya, if you hc him already knowing sindarin)