#dscrs

I'm literally begging people to rub their brain cells together and think about the implications of saying that nonbinary people are included in every sexuality because I promise that gay people and straight people are not attracted to me in the same way and nor do I want them to be. the is that we're always uncomplicatedly included is deeply harmful to the range and subjectivity of nonbinary experience; flattening that complexity to slick memes about how gay and lesbian are nb-inclusive is not helping nb people at all.

it is fine to ‘have preferences’ about who tops and who bottoms in a fictional relationship but i have to say, if you spend all your time angsting about what other people are doing, and keep talking about how wrong they are, and feel threatened when your mutuals follow people who like something you don’t, and cannot stand the idea of a content week for the dynamic you dislike, and desperately seek to like ‘out-maneuver’ them in this little war game you’ve built up inside your head that should by all rights remain there except you never shut up about it, and you have people on ‘your side’ who send sexually explicit anon hate that you never denounce, i have to say it is not surprising that nobody fucking likes you or the dynamic you’ve chosen to taint by association with your bullshit.

hey gamers not to di.sco.ur.se again but the fact that pointing out someone is an aphobe has become a joke kinda further proves that people on this hellsite really hate aces n aros. we can't even inform each other that someone actively hates us without being called cringey and laughed at.

there are many things wrong with that “true leftism is anti-fandom” take, including that it is joylessly bitter and weirdly against the general idea of people having fun with media, but while I'm not going to pretend that fandom is inherently / always an anti-capitalist activity, it's bizarre to pretend that the phenomenon which gave us ao3 — coded and maintained by volunteers, adless and free, and paid for by willing donations from users — is inherently capitalist, especially when it's an organizational feat so incredible it has a Hugo Award...meanwhile the only thing “anti-fandom leftists” are capable of organising is harassment campaigns against autistic people.

i have zero sympathy for bisexuals who are like ‘pansexuality is transphobic’ lmao. if ur sexuality is so fragile ur more threatened by other people who are attracted to multiple genders than like. idk the amount of violence bisexuals face from their partners idk what to tell u! ur priorities are screwed up. esp considering that pan people, as fellow mspecs, are also under high risk of ipv and mental illness. its SO stupid stop shitting on people you have more in common with than not and start using your actual brain cells to think about who your endless arguing about whether or not pansexuals are biphobic (they are not) is helping. hint; it isnt bi/trans/nb people <3 

history is important but I'm SICK of historical arguments against exclusionism. I don't fucking care if bi lesbians existed in the 90s or ace people have been queer since the 60s. I don't care! they're here now and they need community and support now and they would deserve that if they were fucking spawned out the ether an hour ago.

arguing that a certain religion is actually canonically queer-friendly is a dishwater take whether it’s hinduism or something else - they’re not, these religions have been used to support homophobia + transphobia since forever, and interpreting texts to say ‘look, they say queers have rights!! uwu’ is stupid and it’s gaslighty. that doesn’t mean locating queerness in texts is inherently a useless endeavour! queer people have always existed, and we are allowed to attempt to find ourselves in works from the past. there’s a thin but clear line here that we really have to be better about not crossing because otherwise we end up with dumb shitheads like devdutt pattnaik spouting their nonsense about how the gita is trans or whatever he said, don’t tell me what he said i don’t know want to know.