(this is usually not the type of stuff I post but people should see this even if it’s common knowledge. sorry it’s in all caps btw /gen)
BREAKING UP/DROPPING A FRIEND THROUGH TEXT OR DIRECT MESSAGE IS A TERRIBLE CONCEPT UNLESS YOU DON’T SEE THEM IRL.
YOU DON’T KNOW WHERE THEY ARE IF YOU TEXT THEM. FOR ALL YOU KNOW THEY COULD BE HAVING A MEAL OR SPENDING TIME WITH FAMILY, OR AT WORK. THEN THEIR MOOD IS RUINED FOR THE ENTIRE DAY. I GOT THE TEXT WHILE I WAS WORKING AND I CRIED IN FRONT OF A CUSTOMER. IT TOOK THIRTY MINUTES FOR ME TO RECOVER AND GET BACK TO WORK, AND GOD BLESS MY MANAGER DURING THAT SHIFT THAT GAVE ME AS MUCH TIME AS I NEEDED BECAUSE I KNOW THERE ARE WORSE MANAGERS THAT WOULD WRITE YOU UP REGARDLESS.
YOU MAY BE THINKING THAT WRITING THINGS OUT WILL HELP YOU BETTER ORGANIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, AND SENDING THIS WOULD BE FASTER BECAUSE OF GOD KNOWS WHEN YOU’LL SEE THEM. I UNDERSTAND THIS COMPLETELY, BUT ACTUALLY SPEAKING TO THE PERSON WILL HELP YOU BE A LOT MORE HONEST. SO PLEASE, EVEN IF YOU SEE THEM ONLY AT SCHOOL, WAIT TO SPEAK TO THEM AT SCHOOL. IF IT’S SUMMER, STILL WAIT OR AT LEAST ASK TO MEET UP WITH THEM FOR THE DISCUSSION.
THE PERSON YOU’RE DROPPING WILL SEE YOU AS A COWARD AND/OR INSENSITIVE IF YOU DON’T DO THESE. IT DOES NOT MATTER IF YOU TRY TO JUSTIFY ANY OF IT. YOU ARE BREAKING A MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP OFF, AND YOU MOSTLY LIKELY DON’T KNOW HOW MUCH IT MEANS/MEANT TO THIS PERSON.
If this person knowingly abused this relationship and doesn’t plan to change or improve upon themself, you have every right to break ties the way you feel most comfortable with. However, this advice only applies to those who don’t fall under that category.
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