Look i don't think you're Satan or anything more than a single person with a blog but how did you think this would end up? If this was just a general blog for trans masc ppl to discuss their abuse, ppl would have bitched for a while bc youre just copying the other project but you could have gone on for the most part after the initial backlash and maybe actually given some people a space to heal. But doing it this way is like putting up a big neon sign that says "this blog is dedicated to documenting how trans women are rapists" and like, do you not see how any of this looks or sounds? Does that not seem like an obvious giant red button labled "upset everyone who gives half a shit about trans women?" Like if something happened to you im so sorry that happened or you just have specific chip on your shoulder, but you could of made space for ppl to talk about that specific angle if you actually like, established it under some solid principles? Idk man I dont think youre gonna have a good time, you're letting your personal biases and/or trauma cloud your judgement, and you should rethink some things. But im not your mom or anything, its your blog.
I appreciate that you are at least speaking to me like a human being instead of just throwing slogans and threats at my head. I hear what you are saying about the optics of this, and I understand why it looks like a "red button" to people who are already on edge.
But I need you to understand something fundamental: this isn't a project I started because I had a clever idea for a brand or a platform. I started this because I was sitting in the middle of my own wreckage, and I looked around and realized that for someone like me, a survivor of specific kinds of violence, there was no room in our community to even name who hurt me without being told I was an enemy of the people.
You say I should have established this under "solid principles," but the principle here is simply that survivors need to be able to talk about their lives. If the only way tobe "solid" in your eyes is to restrict whose stories can be told so that we don't "upset everyone," then that isn't a space for survivors. That is a space for maintaining a specific, sanitized political image.
I’m not trying to be a martyr, and I am not trying to demonize an entire demographic. I am trying to survive, and I am trying to give others who are in the same position the permssion to finally say what happened to them. Yes, it is messy. Yes, it is polarizing. But trauma is rarely neat, and it certainly doesn't wait for the perfect time or the perfect political framing to demand to be heard.
My judgment isn't "clouded" by my trauma; my trauma is the context for this entire thing. If the community is so fragile that the existence of this blog (or the existence of these stories) threatens the safety of an entire group, then maybe the problem isn't the blog. Maybe the problem is that we are all so te rrified of being "wrong" that we have decided the only safe thing to do is to silence the people who have been hurt the most.
I don't have the energy to rethink the entire project based on how it "looks" to people who haven't been through what we’ve been through. I’m just trying to keep the lights on for the few people who finally feel like they can breathe here
