#drbigtime

I mean apart from the constant feeling of max embarrassment for having this kink at all? LMAO…

YES lol, it certainly happens to the best of us. 😅

I won’t be tooo specific about details but I will say some things I’ve learned about myself and achieving good comfortable play experiences:

1. Chemistry is so essential for one on one play to be comfy for me. It doesn’t even have to be a lot or super deep… but if I’m already awkward/shy around you in a regular setting… play unfortunately won’t be the magic fix for us to get closer 😂🥲

2. I’m not a super NSFW player, to me the t word is the main course through and through. Unless it’s been expressed beyond a doubt (either explicitly or implicitly) that I’m interested in exploring more with you, I’m defs just tryna have regular t-word or kink focused play lol.

3. I’m not very compatible with people who need me to be extremely blatant with my words 😅😅😅. I KNOW this is problematic of me, but as someone who was brought up in implicit communication culture (as opposed to explicit), it’s a little difficult for me to be blunt, especially if I’m put on the spot. I’m a great implicit communicator, I think my body language and vibes practically scream what I want or don’t want. And ofc I can use my words too, I’m not incapable! But it does make me a little uncomfy to do so if I must do it bluntly without any room for gentle let downs. (I’m working on this though I promise, and when push comes to shove I will sacrifice my comfort to communicate my boundaries!)

Emotional: PANIC HATE THIS WHY DID I EVER THINK I WANTED THIS I’M LITERALLY DYINGGG 😩 (🤣 now that I type this out it sounds so dramatic LMAO but hey it’s so real in the moment 😤😂)

I have social media, not every one that is out there. I can barely keep up with messages as it is most days in here alone😅. Mmm but I think it really depends on individual preference and what they feel is safe for them! I know sometimes people can be gunho about exploring a new social media in search of connections. But I think it can be an area of concern when people don't know how it works etc, and post alot(which is totally fine) but I think I tend to approach with more of like a figure stuff out first approach. Cuase there are always typically settings to change how people could have access to you. Like if only people who follow you can message, if your account is public and in search engines, if people can share things to their stories you may post, etc.