Why don't they understand me?
Several years ago at Pixar I was part of a group tasked with trying to improve how we made films. Â We were presenting our thoughts to the people in charge of the studio, including John Lasseter, and something came up about being a director. Â I'm paraphrasing now (it was over ten years ago, so you'll have to forgive me), but this is the essence of the story John proceeded to tell.
Someone comes up to him and says, "I want to be a director." So John would ask them how they would react in this scenario. Â You kick an artist off on an assignment. Â They take a first pass and show it to you. Â It's not what you want, so you give notes. Â They come back with a second pass. Â It's still not what you want, so you give more notes. Â They come back to show you for final, but it's still not what you want. Â Who's fault is it?
(We all paused in the room at this point, wondering if this was a trick question. Â My younger self thought the answer was obvious. Â It was the artist's fault for not executing the notes, right?)
John proceeded.  It's not the artist's fault.  It's your fault as the director for not being able to give the artist notes in a way they could understand and then execute.
This story has stuck with me for all this time because of the essence of the lesson.  As a lead or director, you are going to work with a wide array of people.  This is part of working in a collaborative environment.  It is your job as a director to be able to explain what you want so the artist working with you (notice with you not for you) can understand the task and complete it using their unique skill set.  I've had the privilege of working with a bunch of really great directors and leads over the years, and this ability to taylor the way they explain what they want to the artists working with them is a trait they all share.  It's not an easy thing to do as a lead, and often you just find yourself frustrated that someone doesn't just get what you want, but it's worth the work to explain yourself so others understand your direction.  It not only helps the artists working with you to achieve their goals, but it clarifies what your vision for the project is, and often the clearer your vision, the better it is for everyone working with you.