#demisexual affirmation

I have good news for you! Life is an exciting journey that should never be rushed through. It doesn't really matter if you're panromantic or heteroromantic, or anything else. You could be either, or neither, and that's okay! Only you can decide. And the funny thing about life is that people change and evolve, and that's okay too! Maybe you identify as heteroromantic right now, but sometime down the line you fall in love with a nice nonbinary person. Maybe then you'd decide that biromantic, polyromantic, or panromantic fits you better. Personally, I am panromantic, because I always think to myself, "okay, does the gender of a person affect my view of them, and how much I like/dislike them?" The answer is always no. I'm cool with any gender identity, as I fall in love with personality. So there's a little pointer that might help you figure things out for yourself. Good luck!

I think it probably is, among aspec people and maybe others as well. I’m asexual, and I feel this way. The better I get to know someone’s personality, if they are compatible with my personality, then the more I like them. And the more I like someone, the more I associate their physical appearance with who they are as a person. For me, this is basically just seeing a person physically and realizing, “hey! I know this person and really like them!”

-Mod Rosie

First off, you can use whatever label you think fits you the best. It's important to remember that people can (and do) have sex with people they are not sexually attracted to, and it can be enjoyable. If you feel like you should change your label, then do it! But what you're describing absolutely still falls under the demisexual label.

Absolutely! It's perfectly normal to want (or not want) different relationships. And it's also perfectly fine and normal to know (or not know) what kind of people you'd like to have those relationships with. They may be romantic, sexual, or otherwise. I'm asexual myself, but even I know what kind of people I'd enjoy romantic relationships with. It's not uncommon to fantasize about these relationships, even for us aspec people! Real life is harder. Every person is different, and getting to know them can always lead to discovering personality quirks we don't like, or other things, and sometimes that can be a deal breaker. So the key here is being willing to take your time. Don't rush relationships, and you'll be just fine!

I'm one of the new mods who joined here recently. Nice to meet you all!

I guess I'll just introduce myself by telling you a few things about myself.

I turned 24 years old today, and I'm demi-panromantic asexual, she/her. I'm a cartoonist, and a huge nerd. I'm polyamorous, and currently live with my girlfriend, who is demisexual. I'm super chill and positive, and I'm really looking forward to getting to know everyone! Feel free to interact! :)

For every one of you whose family or “friends” purposefully invalidate your experiences and feelings.

You’re valid. It’s hard to bear with such behaivours, but YOU-ARE-VALID.

Your experiences and feelings are true and you’re not what they say you are.

You’re a wonderful person and you’re brave.

They’re the wrong one.

You deserve the best in this messy world <3

You can do it!