What I learned from talking about finances with partner.
During our video call, I asked Stephen about his Gcash flashback because I jokingly shared mine and told him I didn't expect it to be that huge since I don't have a job and income yet, expecting he'd share his too. So I told him that my money spent on shopping was PPhp130,000, and now it's his time to tell his. He shrugged off the topic by saying that he can't find his screenshots of his GCashflashback (mind you, he was the one who introduced this feature to me,and it was just days ago when we had this topic, so I know he would not have lost those screenshots). I still insisted, but he shrugged me off again and told me that he'd just share it personally (which both of us know will never happen because we'll just forget the topic when we meet personally). But I still persuaded him (I know, my bad) and said that he'd check his GGcash. But why would he still need to check it when he already knows the amount?? Because,hello, you can't just forget the exact amount immediately.
So that's when I realized that maybe... He doesn't want me to know about his finances. Or maybe I crossed a boundary that should not have been crossed in the first place. Or perhaps he was not comfortable with the topic of finances. Or we're still not on that "level.".
Anyway, I became silent all of a sudden and told him not to bother anymore. And that's when he sent those screenshots. Just when I'm no longer interested. When I'm no longer curious. When I'm already annoyed, I have to ask him many times just to get an answer.
I told him to unsend those photos because I'm no longer interested. He asked why, and I explained my side. He told me that he was just joking and messing around, just like he used to. He did not expect that I would react so sensitively. He told me, na dali ra daw ko mangluod.
Oh well, maybe I'm just overreacting. Or maybe not. But one thing I realized from this conversation is that I'll never ask him about his finances again. Never ever again.
