#date experience

It all started from being on internship, being surrounded by colleague whose age were twice of mine and things that seemed cool for me were actually normal for them, and amongst many of them was none other than, dating.

One fine Saturday morning as I was lying on my bed, browsing picture-fed Tinder, I got an instant match. He was a 1997 NUS guy, harmless looking and genuinely interested in me. His first text was “You look so cute and I can't wait to take you out on a date!”

At first I was skeptical of whether or not to say anything so I replied with a “hahaha thank you.” After all, that was my first time. After awhile, he noticed I live nearby, so he actually suggested if we could go out in the afternoon. Being a bit hesitant I asked, “what’s your plan?”

“There’s Muji sales in Plaza Singapura happening right now. I’m heading there at about 3. You care to join?” he invited politely.

My reply was, “I could take a chance.”

So there we were, having arranged our time and place to meet for the first time.

Getting ready, I put on my pink embroidered open back Abercrombie and Fitch that I bought with my mom. That was my favourite one because it was casual, but also nonchalant. It kinda showcased my purity but also my curiosity as a woman. And it was neither revealing nor suggestive. It was the perfect outfit for the first date that revolved around innocence but pleasant.

“Hey, before we go, what's your height?”

I say, “what’s yours? You say first.”

He sounded confused but replied anyways “169cm”

“I am 169,” I sent the text bubble first, then followed with the second one, “Minus 9cm”

“Phew, if you were taller than me I was about to ghost you.” He teased.

“Same thing haha” I approved.

After putting on on my brand new classic Onitsuka Tiger that I just purchased the week before, I headed for the my front door, about to lock and leave. Then a text came in. I don't usually check my phone till I reach the spot itself, so I guess that was a blessing in disguise.

“Hey, I think I will be about one hour late. This is such a bad impression for a first date.”

I replied, “no worries”

“I’ll see you at Hillion Mall, I just picked up my shirt from alteration.” He texted back at about 330pm.

I wanted to tell him that I could go accompany him to pick up his shirt but he told me he had already picked it up and on his way to KOI stall.

“I am here to pick up my lost child. haha.” His text chimed in.

There I was, seeing him from afar on his classic white shirt with khaki bermuda shorts. His canvas sling tote bag clinging on him. He approached me and greeted, “Hey, How are you? your name is very unique.” I smiled back at him and said, “It's eye-oh-la. And you?”

“My name is pretty common.” Followed by his small laugh.

We took a train ride from Bukit Panjang to Dhoby Ghaut, exchanging light stories and experiences. He was an SP alumnus with 3.7 GPA who also by surprise had never been on a tinder date before (He seemed genuine so we take it as he said). That was the beginning of a wonderful tinder adventure, one that grew me to talk to people more confidently and helped me with my social skill.

As soon as we reached Plaza Singapura, we browsed Muji catalog but there was nothing nice in particular. He apologised for it being a wasted trip but I assured him that I only wanted to roam too so that was alright. Soon after we grabbed a cup of Liho. He paid the cashier but I insisted in paying for my own part. Then he had this idea of taking me to the museum, so we went ahead to National Art Gallery.

We explored the museum from top to bottom. He was intelligent, chivalrous, gentle and caring. He explained to me his art interpretations and with patience, attending to my questions. He was apparently a design student in NUS. He told me that Tesla design COO came to his campus recently and how inspired he was by the seminar.

“Us, as a product designer, we want to have a product that speaks on its own. One that can sell just by the look of it. That’s our objective.” He told me as we exited the museum.

“Where to next?” His eyes beaming as he asked me.

We were at Robertson Quay, the most romantic place of the night.

“Timbre” I suggested.

He was not so down with it considering he wanted to keep me safe. He told me, “I’d have to send you home and keep you sober so that we’re not in trouble.”

We went to Timbre after all. Listening to live bands, eating spaghetti vongole and smoked duck pizza, sharing truffle fries and beers and mojitos. He scooped the clam out for me and placed all the foods on my plate and it was just straight up romantic.

When I turned my phone down to lie flat on its back, I noticed he had the same phone case as me, only mine is Pink Sand and his is Alaskan Blue. And we stuck the museum entry sticker on the same spot as each other subconsciously. It was almost he could read my mind and I read his.

He told me, “I noticed we wear the same brand of shoes. And when I first realised that we do, I had a good feeling about you.”

He was affectionate but kind. He told me his relationship was not a priority yet at the moment that that’s why his relationship didn't work out well despite dating his ex for 6 years. He shared aspirations and his wishes to get paid overseas internship in Europe for experience. It was magnificent.

Once we’re out from dinner, we roamed and sat by the side of the river and talked for hours till it got dark.

“You have the vibes that tell me I can trust you. You give off that vibes that I couldn’t find anywhere else.” He spoke to my ear.

The whisper of the winds accompany us as we talk deeper. Eventually when it was almost midnight, he told me he’d send me back home first before he took off.

“Thanks for the company. It was entertaining. The next date would be your call.” He suggested as the cab drove towards expressway.

I just smiled and said, “Consider it arranged.”

It was the most pleasant date with a stranger to date. He deserved a 9/10 despite giving him a 6/10.

“If I were in Poly and about your age, I’d definitely date you. We should get to know each other more.”

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Here are some tips on what on route to wear on a date:<\p>

1. GODLY-MINDED Cologne. <\p>

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2. Nice Shoes. <\p>

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3. Any shirt that fits the venue... unwrinkled in respect to course. <\p>

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4. The pants... the somewhat thing that matters is that it goes with the occasion. <\p>

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5. The hair... keep other self neat and endure it MANLY. <\p>

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