#dannykurily

We're striving for perfection, trying to make something of ourselves, to achieve what everyone else thought we would fail at doing.  It's what keeps us going, moving, breathing.  Its that walk to run to sprint moment.  Sometimes we're running so fast though that we don't look forward, or what is at our feet at the moment.  We trip, we fall, we tumble and roll.  We scrape our knees, people point, and laugh at our failures.  We get up and dust ourselves off and keep going, telling ourselves that we're not hurt, we're totally fine.  But we're not.  We're not even close.  See the thing about us is we feel more than we should, we care more than others.  Maybe its how we were raised, maybe its the music inside of us, i don't really know.  Whatever it is, it lights a fire inside of me, pushing me further, faster.  Minutes turn into hours turn into days into months and then its already a new year.  Never forget to smell the summer air, inhale it deep into your lungs.  

I tour, a lot.  

This past year was no exception, i successfully toured around the world, twice.  There always comes a time though when the tour comes to an end.  Your year of hard work slows down and you finally get some me time to yourself.  

Part of me is excited to have time off, to see friends and spend time working on relationships with people you don't get to see enough.

Part of me is bored out of my mind because all these friends still have jobs they goto during the day and you, don't. 

I've been working on filling my time with a few things.

What do you guys do to fill your time?

   I started going to the gym:  Now on tour it is totally possible to work out, however i do not.  I hate going to the gym and i hate working out on tour even more on top of it.  This gym has been good so far though as i'm lucky enough to have a 24hour gym in the building i live reside at in California.  2 miles of running a day or every other day mixed with weights.  I'm getting back into sailing: water has always been a big part of my life, i guess you could say i was raised in a boating family.  I used to race on a couple sailboats, we used to have a sailboat.  I finally started sailing again and its been some of the most fun i've had in a long time.   

I get to GO TO shows: Nothing is more enjoyable than seeing your touring friends on a tour you are not on.  House of Blues, Wiltern, whatever.  Going to shows where you can simply just enjoy the show is great.  There's no load in or load out or fix this or restring this.  

I go out a few nights a week: Weather its out to dinner, a bar to meet friends for drinks or to a madhouse I enjoy going out with friends and getting weird.  

Chivalry:

Originally the meaning comes from the traditional code of conduct associated with the mid evil institution of knighthood.  Through time the word as taken on the ideals such as the knightly virtues of honor, courtly love, courtesy, these things are all values that good dudes should possess.  

I don't want to say my parents were old fashioned but I think the way they raised me resulted in me having some different values. My dad showed me the value of chivalry and the correct way to treat women. In today standards this is a dying bread, why does it seem impossible for guys to do what I would consider to be a normal thing?

Is dating really done? It seems now it's about getting a number, or sending someone a DM on twitter, going to a bar, grabbing drinks, then bed sheets.  Why is it so difficult to ask a girl to dinner, or hang out with her and friends to try to get to know someone? I get it, I know this stuff costs money, I know everyone is trying to save or be cautious but you have to eat anyways, why not be in the company of someone you could possibly have a relationship with?

I go out on the weekends and see it the values and morals I grew up with less and less. What happened to paying for drinks and dinner? What happened to opening and holding the door? What happened to giving a lady your jacket when she's cold? When did we loose these things, when did it become okay? 

We live in a reality now that is a 140 characters, and likes in instagram. Do you really expect when you go out on the weekend to a noisy club / bar that you're going to have a earth shattering conversation with someone? You end up talking about what you're drinking and where you live and all the other small talk options. We've stopped caring about getting to know people on the next level.  

Now guys don't think I'm going hard on you, this isn't only our faults. Ladies a big chunk of this comes down on you as well. When did the minimum become a passing grade? If I like a girl a lot I want to get her flowers, I want to spend time with her, I want to get to know her. If that makes me a clinger then I quit.  

Maybe one day the standard will change but I think it's going to take work on both sides. Get to know someone, even if you don't end up dating or whatever it's a great way to figure out what you like and dislike in a person / Boyfriend-Girlfriend.