hello ^^ from the Pretty Flower ask game: 🪷 & 🌷 please ╰(*´︶`*)╯
hi lovely anon !! thank you for the ask darling xx
you’re a pretty flower yourself ≈
idk what dr you wanted but if it’s open ended and you don’t mind whichever then i’m glad bcs i’ll be answering for my KPOP DR (where im dating jungwon) bcs it’s on my mind ohmygod aksjdjs
🪷 : LOVELY LOTUS . . . do you and your significant other(s) do any "cheesy" stuff? like having matching pajamas, matching halloween costumes, and picnic dates? or building the flower legos, cooking together, baking together?
honestly the cheesy stuff is mostly how we get that adrenaline rush of teasing our relationship to our fans without having to explicitly confirm it. trust, my realities fandoms aren’t horrible and wouldn’t suddenly switch up to burning you at the stake bcs you feel a romantic attraction to their bias .. like i’d ever put myself in that situation . no. but, there is still a little stigma around dating while you’re an idol, not necessarily because of fans but bcs of your peer relationships — if you break up .. it would make things awkward. so idols keep their relationships a secret. anyway, not the point. CUTE CHEESY THINGS WE DO — we share jewellery mostly. i’m not a silver girly, gold all the way and the entire fandom knows this, so whenever i wear silver on stage, it’s obvs that it was handed to me by my stylist and i just didn’t bother saying anything (bcs ya know, on stage there’s a cohesion that the group must follow, individual aesthetics be damned). but even off stage?? if i’m wearing a silver necklace or a ring that i keep playing with, that’s when it’s jungwon’s.
we also match colours a lot in our outfits, so if a lot of groups are travelling to an event or award show in a different country and we’re all gonna have airport appearances, jungwon and i coordinate colours a little. idk we find it fun aksjdjfjskd so if he wears a dark blue jumper (ya know the one? with the fuzzy material and the white writing? yeh that one that i’ve fallen asleep in more times than i can count) i’d wear a dark blue top or dark blue sweat pants, idk, something to match shades but not the exact. same. clothing item, ya know?
finally, we watch things together, we like split screen or voice/video call on discord and screen share to watch at the same time and we like talk to each other while we binge. it’s easy bcs we don’t have to travel to each others dorms and encroach on our other members and their space, but we still get to hang out. and brooo the way jungwon and i end up rambling about god knows what, jumping from topic to topic, shooting off on multiple tangents and then realising the episode we were watching has finished, the next one has started, and we haven’t been paying attention for the last half hour. but we never mind bcs it’s still time spent together?
🌷 : TIMELESS TULIP . . . what was your relationship with your significant other(s) like before you started dating? were you friends? enemies? academic rivals? did they know you liked them? did you know they liked you?
friends to lovers !! and coming from an enemies (to friends) to lovers truther — this works best in most cases. e2l is all fun to witness on screen or via the pages of a novel, but irl? f2l is the way to go imo (that being said .. i have a Lot of e2l tropes in my drs still so .. take my trope opinion with nuance pls) anyway
i’m gonna be rehashing this in some other post abt my kpop dr but jungwon and i met at the start of 2021 when seven of the 04’ liners in kpop were called to come and partake in a variety show !! a lot of idols were called but only seven of us were allowed by our companies to participate. the show was called 24시간 친구 (24 Hour Friend) where idols of the same age are called to spend a day with the variety show, we’re taken to a few locations, we play games, we use teamwork and we all get a chance to interact and we even have a sleepover in the end (obvs they separated the girls and the guys esp bcs it’s usually a show for young idols — teens and young adults — bcs young idols tend to not have many friends and this show promotes friendships within the industry)
after meeting there, jungwon and i (along with the others) remained close, like we became a friend group. other 04’ idols would join us and hangout but the seven of us were tight.
honestly, i can’t remember exactly how i fell for jungwon, it just kind of happened. he was one of my close friends and then, suddenly, he was one of the most important people in my life. i think it was because of how close clarity became with enhypen (our groups have a close friendship too) regardless of clarity being well known social butterflies within the industry, there’s something special about our friendship with en- and i can’t really explain it
i don’t think jungwon knew about my feelings for him, to be fair, i kinda hesitated to treat him differently to my other guy friends so i didn’t exactly make it clear
but i sort of figured out his feelings after my solo schedules became busy — constant mc-ing for award shows, collabing with other male idols for drama ost’s, stuff like that — and.. yeh jungwon kinda pulled away which made things a bit prickly between us , until i finally confronted it and found out that my suspicions were correct
there’s so much more that goes into this, like, moments that we share prior to dating, and our interactions while dating in secret, etc, so i will be posting about it . eventually
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