#couseling

Hi. It can be frustrating to deal with people who continue to play games with us. Not only can it be distracting but, it can even be hurtful. The fact that he calls you awful names is a bit alarming as that is considered bullying and could be abusive. So I suggest you take some time to think about your feelings. Do you really want to be with a guy that might treat you like this if you do get together? If he’s playing around with you now, it might mean that he isn’t serious about you. You deserve to be with a person who wants to spend time with you rather than take up time by confusing you. However, there could be another side to this. He might not even know what he wants. He could also have commitment issues, so maybe something happened in the past that caused him to behave the way that he does now. He also might not realize the impact that he is having on you and could think that you are playing around with him too. So another thing you could do is talk to him. I know you said that you told him “You’re not a nice person” but maybe this time you could explain what he was doing that made you upset. He might have not understood that his behavior has upset you. He also might think that the matter has been resolved and that you’re fine. Talk to him about how you would like to continue to be around him but if he continues to act this way with you, you won’t be able to. It’s important in any relationship to be upfront and honest. I suggest writing a list of any behaviors or attitudes that you want to talk to him about. That way, you know what to say when you see him. However, if he doesn’t respond well or acknowledge his behavior, then it might be time to look for other people. As I said, you deserve to be with a person who wants to be with you and not cause you any problems. The current relationship that you have with him isn’t ideal so who knows how the relationship will change if you progress past this moment (it might get worse or it might get better). This is where I suggest you really evaluate your feelings for him and see whether it’s worth it. You can try to write a pros and cons list of getting into a relationship with him. You could even try to distance yourself from him and see if that makes a difference in his behavior. Some people change when they see their actions are hurting another person. However, I do suggest you try talking to him first. It can be difficult but whatever decision you make, I am sure you made the best one for yourself. Hope this helps.