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Length isn't what does it for a lot of people, so 4-5 inches is fine, but also keep in mind, you don't have to insert all of a 7 inch toy. If it is too girthy then it's too girthy, but you can always just use as much length as you want. You don't HAVE to bottom out, and a longer toy gives you more to grip onto. I love the POSH brand personally, good quality silicone dildos there.

If you don't like the texture of bare fingers, buy a box of disposable gloves! Me and Mr.Bex like the black nitrile gloves, using those with lube will deff provide much less of a tugging sensation, it will be smoother and glide easier. Plus, swifter clean up too! Which also just, lube, lube, lube.

Being relaxed and adequately turned on before ever putting anything inside is so important.

As for the G-spot thing, I read a Cosmo article foreverrr ago on it and found it in one night, not saying that it is bad that you haven't been able to track it down yet! Everyone's bodies are different! What you wanna do is insert some well lubed fingers, while aroused, curl the fingers upwards, and feel along the "top" wall. You are looking for a patch of rougher, spongier tissue, kind of vaguely walnut textured. If it helps, think of it like this. The clitoris has a huge internal structure, and the G-spot is kind of like the back of the clit, the roots of it run deep, when you are hitting that good spot during sex it is essentially stimulating the clit internally, that's why it feels soooo good. Keep this in mind, use your fingers to sort of feel along, a classic scooping or come hither motion, don't be afraid to really PRESS. The sensation when you find it should be stronger and different from touching any other part internally.