#converation

@esotericemerson​

This conversation was on my Twitter feed and it absolutely delineates exactly why Tumblr is better for conversations on sexuality/identity and/or pronouns.

I chimed in and defended user @gwalright since everybody seemed to be attacking them for trying to explain why the second girl reacting the way she did to the original poster was wrong and extremely insensitive despite her may not realizing it being so.

This was what I added: "Let me jump in a second even though you may not want me. @gwalright is just explaining how there really is no such thing as "obvious pronouns" anymore, so when the girl reacted the way she did, it was as if she was saying a woman looks a certain way and can only look that way.

Now while that isn't directly transphobia, a transgender or non-binary could see this and say that it is because cispeople do not get to decide what is transphobic or not. If they feel that that comment is insensitive no matter how the person may have intended it - it is. You see, it's an ignorance and exclusion of trans and non-binary issues to assume that any bodytype is she/her. That girl was attacking that poster not for not realizing that she was a girl. But because he should have already known by the way her body looked. She said it was obvious she was a woman because of what her body looked like in that picture.

The poster might have thought the same however they could have been like "Wait, what if I'm wrong? Better ask for pro-nouns." They were being considerate and she attacked them for it. What she gave off in reacting like she did was a very TERF-y like attitude. She never thought for one second that just because she identifies by the pronouns she/her, it doesn't mean anyone else who may have the same or similar bodytype would. The assumption was the issue.

And you see, I've done the same here too. Assumed the poster is a "he". It's really easy to be ignorant or oblivious of trans and non-binary issues when you're cisgender because you identify by your assigned sex. Not everyone does. And no matter how much of a minority that "not everyone" is, it still matters. It always matters."

If you do not know what pronouns someone goes by, please don't just assume and call them based on what they look like to you.

Use "they/them" until you are sure.

If the person does not want to give you their pronouns, ask "is it okay if I use they/them?"

If they say no and provide no alternative for you to call them, then they're being uncooperative and you should just stop talking to them altogether. They're expecting you to get it right first time. But it's not obvious and a conversation on sexuality/identity works both ways.

Somewhere in that forum is a collection of all the times those two stood near each other, and all the comments are something along the lines of “theyre totally banging” 🤔😆

i’m dying laughing because please consider the sheer overwhelming volume of pictures and interviews and competition screencaps that must be floating around out there. those two don’t know what personal space is and they don’t care! let’s look at the evidence (sorry this is gonna get long)

they could be alone in a massive room and would still be standing hip to hip

or in a crowd while still being basically on top of each other

tfw when the whole team sits visibly spaced apart except for them

when walking down hallways it’s important to always be able to brush shoulders at any given moment (please note this was the case even before tyranny showed up to share the hallway with them)

in public or in private, it doesn’t matter

Me: Why?

Brain: Because.

Ki nem szeret mást / Who doesn’t love anone else

“- A brunette girl sends this to Károly with lots of love.

Who doesn’t love anyone else but you.

Katalin

- Thanks!

I love you t|”

2017

olaj, farostlemez / oil, fibreboard

About fucking time girl!

the burden of being the type of person that procrastinates even the things I love. but better late than never!!