#constrictive

The first type are the ones who have a very weird mentality of control, of ownership, of possession. I'm not against these concepts but its all about the amounts with which you pursue these matters. Too much of anything will kill and these are no exception. These types of lovers literally reduce the scope of freedom and liberty of their loved ones in drastic measures either out of societal conditioning or because of their own inferiority or superiority complexes or perhaps even out of deep levels of insecurity. One feels very restrained, as though being strangled and it will feel like being trapped, chained and imprisoned. Such kind of "love" will make the loved one feel very small, insignificant and tamed. As if their wings have been clipped and are not fulfilling the purpose they were made of. Literally a gross injustice in the name of love.

The second type is its exact opposite. You don't constrict, you construct instead, you build together, you evolve together, you give the other a chance to grow, to rediscover oneself endlessly in all spectrums of life, allowing wholeheartedly the other to pursue things that create a spark in their lives, opening up the doors of explorations, creating a free platform for open minded dialogues and discussions and even healthy debates, if the need be, respecting the worldviews and alternate perspectives than an individual has full rights to. Such kind of love can be really boosting one's energy levels, bringing out the best in us because it allows one to roam freely in the vast expanse of life itself and all its endless experiences. It is the highest honour that could be accorded to a human in allowing them to be perfectly themselves without obliging them to any sort of trimmings or censorings, making them feel comfortable in their own skins, and creating an atmosphere that would make them feel home. Isn't that what love truly is supposed to do...?

Small Snake.

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I think that people are so afraid of their negative emotions because it would lead them to a negative spiral of no return. We have been taught that these sticky feelings could mean something adverse about us. We are so afraid to experience these feelings because of what it could mean about us.

The emotions that are considered negative - such as anger, jealousy and envy are simply points of guidance. When we experience these feelings, it means that there is an unmet need beneath them. When we are unconscious of what we feel, our actions and behaviours are driven by our wounds. It causes us to project our pain onto external forces and control them to meet our needs. This can be due to the circumstances or other people.

However, it is our internal perceptions that give meaning to our outer world. When we experience these feelings, we feel an energy of constriction. It feels like the energy gets clumped up and ready to spit balls of fire onto the events (or people) that trigger us.

In reality, these feelings are just messengers. When we decide to be present or listen to the needs of these feelings, we make space for them. This is the beginning of loosening the tight grip on what the feeling itself, and what it means about us.

It's important to remember that most of our feelings are a natural, biological response to our circumstances. All of our nervous systems have different ranges of tolerance. So no matter the circumstance, all of us respond to the circumstance differently.

When we allow the negative feelings to fester, it brings us to a complete halt. So when we start meeting these sticky feelings - with curiosity and compassion, we begin meeting them at their energy or pace. When we pursue this, we begin freeing up the blocked spaces. This allows us to move towards feelings of neutrality - followed by a sense of calm, peace, contentment and joy.

A Practise:

The next time you feel a sticky emotion - something like irritation, annoyance, or any form of comparison - instead of rushing to soothe it, spend some time with it. get to know what it wants. In fact, you simply sit in embodied irritation or annoyance for a while. In this way, you really get to 'feel your feelings'.

Notice your breath when you're experiencing the negative emotion, and after you make space to experience it. You'll most probably notice that you're naturally breathing deeply. An outcome of the emotion which has got its need met.

‪I wear far more uncomfortable and constrictive pieces of fabric daily for the s…

‪I wear far more uncomfortable and constrictive pieces of fabric daily for the sake of the people around me… at least masks don’t have underwire. ‬

i wish i had a working laptop so i don't have to write stuff on my phone

i wish i had a working laptop so i don't have to write stuff on my phone

i wish i had a working laptop so i don't have to write stuff on my phone

i wish i had a working laptop so i don't have to write stuff on my phone