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relationship headcanons
“loving kakashi hatake feels easy, understanding him was what took time, and that wait was worth it.”
★ content warning - suggestive? very cheesy.
★ authors note - this is purely self-indulgent. written for my enjoyment so if you don't like it please just scroll!
a - affection
kakashi isn’t the most openly affectionate person, but when he loves, he loves. he isn’t the type of man to smother you in PDA… but when you get him alone? his hands are everywhere, brushing your hair out of your face, tracing your back, brushing your knuckles, laying his head against you or tugging you a little closer when he thinks you’re not paying attention. and if he’s really missing you? he’ll grab your face, press his forehead to yours, and just breathe you in. just to feel closer. it’s not flashy, but it’s… him.
b - beauty
this man is a sucker for pretty eyes. he believes eyes are the windows to who you really are, like they hold all your secrets, your thoughts, everything you’re too afraid to say out loud. he’s drawn to the way they change with every emotion, every glance, and how they give away more than you think. if you ever catch him staring, he’ll just smile and say, ‘eyes don’t lie.’ and yeah, he’s definitely weak for the way yours speak to him.
c - cuddling
kakashi acts like he doesn’t care about cuddling, but the second you pull him close? he is gone. he won’t admit it, but he sleeps better with you curled up against him, his arm draped lazily over your waist, knowing you’re safe. if you ever run your fingers through his hair while he’s half-asleep? yeah, he’s never letting you go.
d - dates
he likes the simple things. think walks through the village at night, quiet dinners at home, laying in the grass watching clouds, reading together in bed. nothing crazy, just you two time. but if you try dragging him to some ridiculously romantic thing, like candlelit dinners and all that? he won’t complain, but be prepared for the teasing.
e - excitement
kakashi doesn’t get outwardly excited often, but you know when something matters to him. he gets quiet. like really quiet. his fingers will twitch, his eye will crinkle at the edges, and if he’s really excited, he’ll suddenly become very interested in holding your hand. it’s adorable. and if he ever drags you off somewhere with a little too much urgency, just go. it means he’s excited, even if he won’t say it.
f - fighting
he hates arguing. he’d rather sit in silence than say something he doesn’t mean. if you’re upset, he’ll let you talk, arms crossed, head tilted, like he’s really listening. he never raises his voice. never. ever. but the second he realizes he’s hurt you? oh, he’s fixing it, no questions asked. kakashi doesn’t have time for pride. he’s lost too many people to let things go unresolved.
g - gifts
kakashi is the king of subtle gifts. mention you like a book? it'll magically show up on your nightstand. run out of your favorite tea? a fresh bag will just appear in your kitchen. if you ever thank him, though, he'll just shrug and say, something stupidly cryptic like "must've been the wind." (yeah, right.)
h - honesty
this man doesn't lie. kakashi hatake won't sugarcoat things, life's too short for that. he won't tell you what you want to hear just to make you happy. not in a cruel way, but in a way that makes it impossible to doubt him. if he says he loves you, he means it. if he's worried about you, you'll know.
i - intimacy
kakashi's all about the little things. like the way he brushes your hair behind your ear, or how his fingers linger on your skin just a moment longer than they need to, showering together after a long day and washing each other's hair, to reading a book side by side, or just stealing soft butterfly kisses. sometimes, in those quiet moments, he'll trace your face with his fingertips, your cheekbone, your jaw, the curve of your lips, like he's trying to memorize you and it's those little things that mean everything.
j - jealousy
kakashi's not the jealous type. he trusts you completely. but… if someone gets a little too close? ooh, he definitely makes his presence known. he won't say a word, but suddenly, he's right behind you, his arm casually around your waist or his hand on the small of your back. he doesn't have to make a scene, just tilts his head, his eye narrowing, and somehow, the person flirting with you suddenly finds something really important to do far, far away from you.
k - kisses
two words. slow and intense. the kind of kiss that leaves you breathless, chasing for more. kakashi doesn't rush kisses, he takes his time, tilting your chin up, brushing his lips just barely over yours before finally pressing in. and when he's feeling extra affectionate? he'll kiss the corner of your mouth, your jaw, the tip of your nose, the side of your neck, everywhere, just to see you melt. (good luck breathing after!)
l - laughter
his real laugh? it's rare, but when you hear it? it's everything. he'll tilt his head back, his eye crinkling, his whole body shaking just a little as he tries to hold it in. and goodness, it's beautiful. the kind of laugh that makes you want to keep doing whatever you can to hear it again. it's like hearing the quietest, most perfect thing you didn't know you needed. and everytime you hear it you can’t help but smile.
m - mornings
kakashi is the grumpiest morning person. he hates getting up. if you try to wake him, hell just groan, bury his face in your neck, and mumble something incoherent. and if you let him sleep in? yeah, good luck getting him out of bed at all.
n - nicknames
kakashi isn't big on nicknames, he prefers your name, but when he does use them, they're always sweet like "princess" or love." it's his way of showing he cares without making a big deal about it. but when you start calling him things like "pretty boy," "sexy," or "silver fox," he gets way more flustered than he'll ever admit. he tries to play it cool, but the way his face turns red and he suddenly gets quiet? yeah, well, it's all you need to know that you've completely flustered him.
o - obsession
he’s obsessed with you. not in a toxic way, but if he doesn’t see you, he will get withdrawals. he loves your scent, the way your hair bounces, the way you.. well he lets just say he loves your existence. so if you ever catch him wearing your scarf or stealing your blanket, no, you didn’t.
p - protectiveness
kakashi worries a lot. he won't show it, won't be overbearing, but he knows from experience how fast things can be taken away. so he watches your back without you even noticing, always making sure you're safe. and if anyone dares to threaten you? oh, they don't exist anymore…
q - quiet time
he loves just being with you. sitting in silence, enjoying each other's presence. no pressure to talk, no expectations, just you and him, existing together in the kind of peace he never thought he’d have. it makes him feel… content.
r - romance
honestly, loving him isn't about grand declarations. it’s the way he makes sure you know without ever having to say a word. it’s in every touch, in every glance, in every quiet moment where words aren't needed. he’s very intentional.
s - secrets
he doesn't open up easily. but when he does? goodness, he means it. if kakashi hatake lets you in, lets you see his fears, his grief, his real self. just know that he trusts you with everything he has. so no… not many secrets stay between the two of you.
t - touch
he lives for physical touch. it's how he grounds himself. whether his hand on your knee, a brush of fingers against your wrist, small fleeting touches that remind him you're real.
u - unwavering
once he's yours? he's yours. no hesitation, no second-guessing. kakashi hatake doesn't love lightly, so when he chooses you, it's forever.
v - vulnerability
it's really hard for him. but on the nights when he can't sleep, when his past feels too heavy, he'll let you hold him. let you kiss his temple, run your fingers through his hair, remind him that he's here, that he's loved. sometimes he will talk, tell you bits of his past, others he will let you comfort him…
w - warmth
kakashi always runs cold. his hands, his feet, the tip of his nose when he leans in too close. and maybe that's why he's always pulling you into him, why his fingers slip under the hem of your shirt just to press against your skin. you're his warmth, his home. it's in the way he tucks himself against you when he's tired, like he's chasing your heat, like you're the only thing that thaws the chill he carries. with you, warmth isn't just body heat. It's the way he exhales a little deeper when you hold him, the way his shoulders finally relax, the way he lets himself breathe.
x - xoxo
he’s big on forehead kisses. he will grab your head and press a little kiss on the top of your forehead and go on with life. sometimes the mask stays on, other times mask comes off. regardless, it still makes all you warm inside.
y - yearning
he misses you constantly, even if you were just here. it's in the way his gaze drifts to the door after you leave, like he's waiting for you to walk back through it. the silence between you two feels louder when you're not around, and he fills it with thoughts of you. even when he doesn't say anything, you can feel it in the way his hand lingers near yours, hoping you'll come back to him soon. it’s even worse when he takes a mission that lasts long. he feels so restless, counting down the days to see you again.
z - zen
you are his peace. his home. in your presence, the world feels quieter, like everything slows down just to let him breathe. with every touch, every glance, is a reminder that he's exactly where he belongs.
final thoughts:
you knew loving Kakashi Hatake was never going to be easy. he was distant, guarded, impossible to hold onto. but goodness, when he finally let you in and loved? he loved like he was never going to let go. (you’re stuck with him.
