#codependents

When we have a society of codependents, they become a magnet for the narcissists of the world. https://backbonepower.com/narcissist-911

✔ 6 out of 9 . The mirroring smh #traumabonding . Reposted from @lovingmeafterwe - It's really easy to blame everyone else for the cycle of #toxic #relationships that you find yourself in year after year.  After all, we live in a society that condones blaming everyone else for our issues.  We think that if he changes, we will finally be happy.  If we just find a man who meets some imaginary fairytale list then we think subconsciously he'll love us in the way we wished we were not loved as children. We know this as repetitive compulsion. Try exploring the issues that you bring to the table.  Like a beacon, your unresolved issues draw you to others with a lock and key dynamic.  Remember the bat signal from Batman?  Same concept. You were abandoned by dad when you were younger?  You choose a partner that walks out of you after an argument, ghosting you for days or a few weeks. Mom worked late and never had time for you at night when she came home?  You choose someone who does the same - a husband or boyfriend that seemingly never makes time because he always works late. Your sister was an addict and you watched your parents enable her behavior, feeding their/her #codependents by never setting #boundaries and #limits.  You then choose someone with similar enabling traits as you binge eat to deal with the pain of having parents who were never emotionally present for YOU because they were so focused on your sister. The common threads are: 1.  The choices you make in a partner that #mirrors your past 2.  The pain from your past cycling through your #life today like bull in a china shop 3.  Your #unconscious #role and lack of #awareness in what's truly happening to you in these relationships. In loving me after we, the first thing we learn is how to become #conscious and #aware of the dynamics we find ourselves in.  We become #introspective and learn why we are a magnet for certain relationships. The primary issue isn't the man who cheated on you but why YOU chose him.  He will continue his behavior long after he leaves.  But will you change or remain the same #attracting and #choosing the same person over and over again? I'll take CHANGE for $1million ALEX! https://www.instagram.com/p/B2vAhQJHy9w/?igshid=1tzvaya9lfxcp

You could replace “he” with “she” if that fits your personal situation. . . . #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticsupply #codependents #empaths #narcissisticfuel #lifeafternarc #HowNotToDate https://www.instagram.com/p/BsWuqj3H52Y/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=nxj4lhtgoasn

Good advice for all us co-dependents Good advice for all us co-dependents Source by bvirgillo