@generallemarc reblogged your post and added:
At what point does âI was never misgenderedâ become âI hate trans people by defaultâ? You donât have the slightest level of understanding of the people youâre talking about
âI was never misgenderedâ doesnât mean âI hate trans people by defaultâ, but it does mean I donât understand the trans experience without working to learn about it and that life is a lot easier for me. When I go into the bathroom I prefer, nobody stops me. Nobody demands that I get my hormone levels tested if I excel at sports (this is also something that disproportionately affects Black cis women who are elite athletes). I donât have to fight to get my gender marker changed on my ID or to get the gender-affirming treatment I need, which even if it were recommended by my doctor might not be covered by my insurance. Going to the doctor is a less traumatic experience for me, despite the fact that Iâm fat, because my genitals and my gender presentation line up in the expected way. Iâm not a transman who has to go to a âlady doctorâ or a transwoman who has to explain why yes, sheâs sure sheâs not pregnant. If somebody calls me âsirâ instead of âmaâamâ, it doesnât trigger any dysphoria for me. I wonât lose my job because of my gender presentation. I donât face constant casual erasure of my experience by people who say âladies and gentlemenâ or âguysâ or any of those things we donât even think about when we say them unless we get educated to recognize it. Â
Iâm not sure you really understand what systemic âisms are and how they operate. Even in a room full of people who arenât transphobic, the system is still set up to benefit cis people by default.  My life is easier because Iâm cis in ways that I didnât really consider when I was younger because I didnât have to. Thatâs what I have to recognize and work against. The experience of others is different than my experience, and most peopleâs experiences are more difficult (because Iâm an able neurotypical cis white woman whose gender presentation doesnât mark me as âvisibly queerâ). Iâm presumed innocent in a lot of situations where others would be suspected. Thatâs what systemic racism/transphobia/homophobia etc. means. Iâve never had to fight to have my humanity recognized (aside the obvious prevalance of misogyny and queer/biphobia). Iâve been playing life on an easy setting - the system is set up for me. Â
Even if your simplification were true, itâs not enough not to hate trans people or Black people or whatever group weâre discussing. We all must work together actively for the liberation of ALL people. Â
