#chasing someone

The truth is, you should never have to chase what’s meant for you.

Remember that every moment you spend trying to chase a relationship with someone who doesn’t want one with you is time that could be spent meeting someone who does.

It’s the text that’s gone unanswered and you know he’s read it.

It’s the snap that’s been opened and he’s not responding but looks at your story first.

It’s every like and share and tag just when you think he’s out of the picture.

It’s the plan that you made only to have him cancel last minute when you go to confirm what the deal is.

It’s the sound that wakes you up in your sleep and you just know it’s him.

You don’t want to leave but you miss him. Even though you know you shouldn’t.

It’s technically being single but emotionally you’re not and just when you think something is going somewhere with a stranger, you look down and see his name.

He holds you without any touch at all.

He knows exactly what to say. He knows exactly when to say it. And you don’t know how he knows. If it’s a game of who cares less you always lose.

Even though you don’t want to play you continue engaging because you can’t seem to walk away from it.

It’s the words I love you and he knows it but he won’t ever say them back.

It’s wanting to be something more but you feel stupid asking a question you know the answer to.

So you stay silent and play along even if it’s killing you to do so.

You hold him close at night knowing this will never be what you need even if it’s everything you could want.

It’s the time you spend talking about him, analyzing his every move, wondering why is he doing this? Because he knows exactly what he’s doing. Yet he won’t change.

But you think if you keep trying he might.

So you try and love him harder thinking love is just a game to be won. But no matter what you do you’re losing. Cause he changes every rule as he pleases. It’s trying to keep him but knowing in your heart he’s never been yours to have and honestly, he never will be.

Just because I stopped waiting for you and hoping for you to come back, doesn’t mean I still don’t love you. 

However, I have learned that you cannot keep a wild thing; there is no point of holding onto something that I don’t have any assurance of. It only causes hurt — and I need to live a happier and more peaceful life. I need to do this, not because of you, or even for you, but for myself. So, if gaining the best for myself means letting your “maybes” go, then I must be willing to do it. I must grab this opportunity to grow, to recover all the time that I’ve lost, to discover new things, to create new relationships, to make wonderful memories, especially with my friends and family, to achieve the things that are ahead of me, and to become this woman I’ve always wanted to be. All the tears we wept and problems we faced, they were bridges to something more extravagant, and I truly believe in that. All the stories we made, wishes that we once clung to, plans that were thoroughly laid out, and good memories we collected, shared and treasured — they are pieces of us that no one can ever take away. And yes, you left a mark on me that no one could ever replace. I’ll forever love you for that. I’ll love you in a way that accepts you as the person who changed me, who gave me the inspiration to make myself better than before, and to love myself even more. I’ll love you for the friendship and companionship we’ve established and shared. I’ll love you for the way you helped me through this cruel life. I’ll love you in a way that will still leave space for you, if we would ever stumble across each other 5, 10 or 20 years from now. And if we run into one another then, I’d be pleased to know your story over a cup of tea or coffee. But you are gone right now, and I can’t focus on trying to get you back. I can’t keep running after you. You’ll always be special to me, but I must go. I must go.

Are You Wasting Your Time Chasing Him?

When he leaves you waiting for a text back for three straight hours, you might wonder whether you are wasting your time chasing him.

When he cancels plans at the last second when you are already dressed and ready to leave the house, you might wonder whether you are wasting your time chasing him.

When he views your story and likesyour photos but ignores whatever direct messages you attempt to…

By Danice Lobrin

I’ll stop chasing you now

Since you’re better off without me

I’ll stop living in the past

Since what matters here is the “now”

I’ll stop chasing you

Because you dont want me around

Go find yourself, dear

I will no longer hold you back.

I won’t be a burden anymore.

Go find yourself, love.

I won’t chase you

Walk away, it’s okay.

I managed to try and live without you.

It was like a part of me has died.

I died too.

But i will no longer chase you.

I love you, and love should be liberating.

So I will set you free now.

I love you but you’ve hurt me so bad

So bad that I don’t know if I can love again.

I won’t chase you anymore.

I’m setting you free while loving you from afar

I won’t chase you anymore.

I’m setting you free so I won’t hurt anymore.