#chaser

When one partner repeatedly ghosts, breadcrumbs, is hot and cold, have one foot in and one foot out, out of fear of rejection, vulnerability, commitment or loss of freedom and autonomy, they are considered a runner. When the other partner pushes for communication, connection, and applies pressure to the runner, they are considered a chaser. Chasing can be energetic which includes, constantly mentally ruminating over the runner's actions, last conversation and interaction, imagining scenarios of reconciliation, checking for signs and synchronicities, checking their phone for missed calls or text messages. Constantly talking about the runner to family, and or friends, getting/watching tarot or synastry readings about the runners current actions or the future of the connection, constantly calling and texting even when you get no response or when response is sporadic. This is different from limerence where the connection is imaginary, because the runner and chaser may actually BE in a relationship with one another, regardless of popular opinion, if you have been involved physically, and have emotional attachment to one another even if it is not spoken, it is still considered a relationship, however serious or unserious one or both parties consider it to be. Physical and emotional attachment is still a energetic contract and still valid and the laws of relational karma still apply. Runners may start to chase once they sense the chaser energetically detaching which results in a push pull dynamic that can be neverending if Saturn is in hard aspect in the chart. Runners do not run in every connection they are in, which is why I am not going to apply this to the natal chart. I have post for non committal placements but right now I am focusing on the synastry because different connections bring out different energies in us based off of the aspects the chart. Certain aspects to our planets can invoke either the runner or chaser in us all. I have been on both sides of this. If you feel you are in a runner/chaser dynamic and you are the chaser, it is because your persons rejection may be triggering something within you that has to do with abandonment and trying to rewrite a past story that has happened that we do not want to happen again, but the emotions that it brings up for you is the what really needs to be worked through. If that is not the case they may be triggering how you truly feel about yourself, as you may tie your self worth to how you are treated, or seen by others. You may be chasing approval or have a need to feel chosen to feel valid. For most of us it is both of these things. If you are the runner, the connection to this person may make you feel exposed or vulnerable, the feelings they bring up within you may make you uncomfortable so you may pull away to regain the upper hand or a sense of control. You may have been abandoned yourself and or feel so deeply for the chaser that you fear their abandonment, so you do it first. You may feel unworthy of their love and devotion and it may bring up questions of how worthy you are of being loved. You may have secrets, or things that you are ashamed of or feel like the chaser may judge you for or may not approve of, or leave you for. You may feel like if you keep your distance, you can control the pace, outcome and intensity of the connection. The one thing that the chaser and runner have in common is that they both want: CONTROL. Runner/Chaser dynamics are intense especially if there are oppositions because the energy tends to flip, and the roles reverse where the Chaser becomes the Runner, these are the Breakup to Makeup dynamics. Below are a few of the aspects I have noticed studying countless charts, with this dynamic. Per usual look at the condition of you and your partners charts and their aspects separately before looking at the synastry.

Sun opposite/square Venus

Sun opposite/square Uranus Synastry/Composite

Venus conjunct/opposite/square Pluto

Venus conjunct/opposite/square Lilith

Venus opposite/square Uranus Synastry/Composite

Venus opposite/square Neptune Synastry/Composite

Mars opposite/square Neptune

Mars conjunct/opposite/square Pluto Synastry/Composite

Mars opposite/square Moon

Mars opposite/square Lilith

Mars opposite/square Uranus

Mars opposite/square Saturn

Pluto opposite/square Sun

Uranus 2nd/4th/7th House Synastry/Composite

Moon conjunct/opposite/square Uranus

Saturn 4th/7th/8th House Synastry/Composite

Pluto 7th/8th/12th House Synastry/Composite

North Node in the 4th/8th/12th House Synastry/Composite

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What happens when the chaser stops chasing?

The majority of runners are not conscious of their behavior and the damage it causes to their person or the connection, they are just reacting and playing their part in the story the stars have written. If they were self aware they would see they are just running from themselves, their own feelings, their own shadow. Usually the chaser stops chasing when they have been triggered to heal what caused them to chase in the first place. That's when the energetic cord snaps and the runner no longer has the same control over the dynamic. The runner always runs back because the intent is never to stay away, it is to ground themselves and regain control. Once that is taken away, they are just left with themselves, the fear of what they ran from in the first place which is abandonment becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. But instead of leaning into what this is triggering and try to heal it, they begin to chase and the chaser who by then is awakened to the toxicity of the runners ways, runs from the connection, if the chaser takes the runner back, the runner will just run again, especially if they have not healed what caused them to run in the first place. They are not coming back because they have finally chosen the chaser or realized how much the chaser or the connection meant to them, they are coming back to feel in control again. If they can win back the chaser this validates that for them. Understand and overstand, it is chess not checkers. It is only a game if two people are playing. To no longer be the pawn you must remove yourself from the board, energetically, mentally, emotionally and physically. A dynamic where you have to wonder where you stand and makes you question your worth is not built to last or sustainable, what it is, is a lesson.

Stay Lifted,

Madison 🕊️✨

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