“Why do people wanted to go back in the past and why they should let it go already?”
A lot of people love to mesmerize on the words “I hope” and “I wish”. Just like for example, they are wishing and hoping about the possibility of time travelling so that they can go back in their past or future lives. But most of the people actually want to go back in their past lives rather than seeing their future. The question is, why do people keep on dwelling in their past lives, even though it’s already written and will never come back at all? Why don’t they just leave the things that already faded away? Why don’t they just accept the fact that things are meant to change and there is no permanent thing in this world? And lastly, why they should let it go already?
“If there’s no past, there will be no present, nor future.” This is one of the famous sayings of all times. Well, this is indeed accurate for it shows that our past lives is really important because it is a pre-cursor towards the betterment or worse of our present and future. This is why people wanted to go back in their past, it has a big impact in our present time. Even me, the one who writes this essay, yes, I did dream going back in my past life. Why I did? Well the main reason was because I wanted to change something about it. I didn’t like how my present turned out. It’s just really painful for me to accept the things that were lost even if I don’t really want it to let go. It’s just really absurd that a special person or a moment will only lead to a painful memory. I wanted to change myself in that certain part of my life so that I won’t end up crying over a person who will just leave me even though he promised that he won’t. I wanted to go back because I wanted to change sorrowful happenings in my life. A lot of people, like me, is hoping for one more chance, so that they can change their past decisions because they don’t wanted the way their lives turned out in their present time.
Along with wanting change, there’s the regrets. I wanted to change something because I regret that it happened. I regret my past decisions. Some people can also relate to me, because they have also regretted such things that causes their unpleasant tears. Regrets that holding us back to move forward and triggers us to have a grudge on someone. Like for example, we regret that we met a person because he/she might be the cause why we are having such a hard time to move on with our lives. Because of this, we ended up blaming ourselves saying, “If I was wise enough, it will not end up this way.” But regrets don’t just focus on this kind of perspective, other people also regret because they are not satisfied with a certain time or moment. Why they are not satisfied? Because they didn’t make the most of it. They just let that time pass by and they didn’t cherish it. Like for example, people who are so workaholic missed out such blissful moments in their love ones’ life and at first they don’t really care about those moments, instead they will only start caring when it’s already too late.
On the other side, there are also people who are already contented and they feel much happier in their past lives. Those types of people don’t want change at all, they are neglecting it. Yet the cruelty part of this is that change is inevitable. It really happens even if we don’t want it all. Change is going to come and we don’t have any choice but to welcome it. Those reasons that I gave was really strong that’s why I fully respect it, but in this essay I wanted to wake up those people who still keeps on wandering in their past lives and people who were blinded because of it. I will pull them out of that world... Out of that past life. Just like me, I wanted them to see the beauty of the present time rather than the past and the future. I wanted them to accept that what they have done is already done. Past can’t be changed anymore. There’s no such thing that will bring them in that time because it is really impossible.
Wake up! Don’t dwell on that tricky past anymore. Don’t live in that realm wherein you are just blinded, suffering and that pain in your heart just keep on growing instead of healing it. Don’t use the past to escape the present time. Your present time, right now, will also become a past. If that’s already the past, then you don’t have the power to change it anymore. Live in the present time because it is the only instance that you are capable to change what you really wanted to change. Stop dreaming that the past will go back, because it will never come back! Yes, it might be important, but don’t use it to make you much weaker like you used to be. Heads up, chest out and face the present time. Make the most of it! Don’t let the things in the past be repeated again. Change it while you have time! Stop crying over that dark past instead start smiling because you are given a chance to keep on going. Every day is a blessing and every day is a new beginning. Keep on rewriting your story while you still have the power to do it. Set goals and move forward! There are still tons of opportunity that lies ahead. God has a better plan for you. Always remember that you are not alone for He is always there. Don’t hesitate to ask for guidance because He is the key. He holds the bright future that is waiting for you. You might contradict that the past is much more powerful rather than the present time, but no, it is not. Past is past, it has already ended.
Let the past be your motivation to do much better at the present time for the sake of your better future. We must keep in mind that we are the ones who is controlling our lives. We are the ones who write our own story. If you let the dark moments of past eat you up, then be prepared for the worst. But if you let the brightness of the present time shine upon you and help you, then be prepared for a much better version of yourself. Learn from your mistakes, let go of the things that are already lost, forgive yourself and others, forget the dark moments, accept that things happen for a reason, believe that everything will be alright and just keep on moving forward. These are the keys towards your ideal future life. “Be like a tree and let the dead leaves drop,” Rumi.
