#bronystupidity

this all started when I made a post in Decemberish talking about a brony in one of my classes that was a rude creep, which was met with insults and getting called a liar by other bronies because bronies would NEVER do that, right?

well day before yesterday or so I started thinking about it again, and made a post on my personal blog about how ridiculous/ironic it is that when someone comes forward about being harassed or made uncomfortable by a brony, the response is to jump on them with insults and shifting blame onto them, then they are surprised when people view their fandom in a bad light this applies to many fandoms actually

and this is where generaal comes in, claiming I was lying

when I asked for a reason that he thought I was lying, the best thing he came up with was claiming the post didn’t exist, and a Google search, more specifically googling my personal blog’s url and the word “brony”. I shouldn’t even have to explain why that doesn’t even come close to a reasonable piece of evidence. and the other reason he was convinced the post wasn’t even existent? HE WAS LOOKING ON THE WRONG BLOG FOR IT, then called me a liar when he of course couldn’t find it. everything else he brought up is completely exaggerated, irrelevant to the situation, or just simply not true. this includes:

claiming I’m a hateful feminist bigot because I made a post saying protecting lives of the oppressed > derailing phrases like “not all men”

that I am untrustworthy because I’m comfortable with my sexuality (cause WHO CARES about slut shaming, right?) yet against the abusive porn industry.

and lastly that my anons are self-submitted, because apparently he thinks there’s a similar typing pattern? this is completely pulled from his ass. I have a statcounter that could completely disprove this, but it would really be a dick move to my followers so I’d rather not unless it becomes needed

I explained that not only were his points against me weak and even inaccurate at best, but he didn’t find the post because it was on an entirely different blog

he then tries to claim I said “kill all men” in a post on my personal blog in an attempt to smear me, which is 100% not true. he also claims that many women are in the porn industry “voluntarily” so it’s fine, and implying that it’s prostitution that’s bad, not porn industry. but this is not the case. In the same reblog he also denies slut-shaming me when that is exactly what he did (what is it called when you try and shame someone because they’re open with their sexuality? that’s right! slut-shaming!)

when I responded to him in a separate post bringing up these points, lex_light (the other mod of the blog) reblogged it apologizing for generaal’s behavior, saying he hopes it does not happen again. however, he did seem to be unintentionally under the impression that I was talking about an attempted rape, I sent an ask to clear this up. Generaal later commented on this post in a very long chunk of text defending skepticism of rape survivors (and claiming because he knows a rape survivor that he has a right to do this). the rest of it seems.. really unrelated to the original point to be honest. It’s more of a general rant about how awful feminist are and that gender roles will always be a thing, and that fighting against them is a “no-win” situation. if you want to read the rest of it, click the link

anyways, Lex answers here and stresses good points about trusting victims of harassment/rape. Generaal later comments that he uses the “trust and verify” method, which he seems to think is badgering someone with irrelevant slut shaming, half-looking through a blog, and smearing someone with exaggerated or completely untrue claims. lovely. not to mention that even though I gave him the URL of blog the post was made on, he STILL could not find it, and again thought it somehow proved his point. talk about lazy “research”

after seeing all his comments I was fed up and angry. I don’t why he was so fucking hellbent on this. experiences like this are shitty enough without someone completely hounding you about it and calling you a liar. I looked through about 6 months of posts to find the original one and sent an ask with it, along with a piece of my mind. did he apologize for anything? no, he just goes on about how I’m STILL the one in the wrong because I brought up that he’s a brony in my post. along with quotes from the people on that post that boil down to “not all bronies” and “that’s bad but YOU’RE WORSE FOR BEING MEAN TO BRONIES”. as well as implying that I do not actually know that this person is a brony, which is not the case since I have had mutual friends with this person and have had prior interactions with them. do not fucking assume you know more about MY experience than I do

I have since sent two asks to bronystupidity, neither of which have been answered. the vast majority of the things he brought up had absolutely no purpose other than slander. I want an apology before I block their blog and move on. sorry if there’s spelling/grammar errors I just got back from a graduation trip I’m just really tired really irritated and really done with this whole thing

- Quil

update: he responded to my ask, which admittedly I was upset when I sent it because of his unapologetic-smearing, and his response was condescending as hell, and pretty funny that he’s on a “DON’T SLANDER BRONIES” soapbox (after I was talking about being sexually intimidated by one) when that’s exactly what he’s been doing to me, but with false and exaggerated info

I really do not want to turn this into a “well MY harassment/disorder(s) are worse than yours!” thing because it’s unethical and demeaning to your experience, and I do not feel comfortable divulging into my personal information after seeing how certain people react to it, so I won’t. But really, keep in mind that how you deal with your own negative experiences has no bearing on how others deal with theirs. if it was just a one time thing, I might even agree with you. But it’s simply not. This is not the first or last or worst experience I have had with this group of people, (specifically sexual harassment) and because of how people like you react about me even simply saying I was sexually intimidated by a brony in one of my classes.. Yeah. I don’t have any plans to open up any time soon. You’re the exact act type of person I was talking about on the first post where you accused me of lying. which I wasn’t, and you never apologized for. You say you’re against rabid bronies. But slut-shaming, victim-blaming, lying about people for your own gain..