#bodypositivism

Bitch, listen

1. This is my health

2. If I were smoking, drinking, taking hard drugs and doing self harm - which is far more unhealthy, than being chubby - you wouldn't drop a word.

3. Yall just afraid that society will normalize not looking like a porn star.

4. Cause all these fitness centers ads with a focus on ladies' butts SURE provide wellness and not shaming you into appealing to a male gaze.

5. And just an extra point to mental health. Some people say that since being overweight is related to depression, than it must be because being fat fucks up your brain and makes you miserable and depressed. Bitch, corelation ≠ causation, if so, I believe that extra pounds are the RESULT of being depressed when you barely have any energy to move outside your room and when comfort food is one of your only sources of serotonin, bitch huh I wonder why.

this is me im AuntBibby i have bubbs

btw i live in a disability grouphome. i rely on support staff. but im still fabulous sometims. but yeah im kind of incompetent at basic human stuff. im not one of those talented trans ladies. i can draw i guess. i used to compose music?

yes i have a chubby belly. yes i wish i was a bulldog sometims. i heard these 2 things are popular on tumblr.

btw im a virgin. hope u like me.

Body shaming is something that has been around since ages and people have been going through with it silently. In this time period though, this is actually getting the attention it should have been ages ago. Still we come across many many people who have an explanation for treating people who are overweight or underweight or just different than the ideal body type (which btw changes like every next year) badly, “it causes many health diseases” or “ i just want them to be healthy and look good”. While some may use this as an excuse to just put people down but there are people who actually are concerned and they say these things too, to them I would just say, it’s of no use.

The truth is that it will do them no good, the only thing it will do is that their self confidence will detoriate almost immediately, they will become so self conscious that it may result in severe mental and physical consequences that will only hurt them. Unless and until it’s them who want to change for good, for themselves, anybody else telling them won’t do any good.

Speaking from my personal experience, i gained 10 plus kgs during lockdown and before that i used to be underweight and I didn’t care about it but after that i started seeing changes in how people perceived me. Comment sections and my messages were now filled with “you look fat” or “did you gain weight?” or the best of all “you looked prettier before”. As if this was not enough people around me would put a phrase or two saying “i think this much food is enough” or “go do some exercise , you don’t look good” or simply “lose some weight”. It did me no good.

Nobody gets it, altleast the ones who have never really faced it. I realised it then, even i used to do the same. Not intentionally but commenting on body was the only kind of joke we have seen around that kids make on others.

All of these comments though seem very small and irrelevant but these were the reason i stopped going out of my house, stopped eating (max 300 calories a day), I would not buy clothes, cry for hours because i used to get so intimidated by the people around me, all of this for an entire year. Traces of these are still in my behaviour but much better.