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Staying in the Room To acknowledge the expansion of my writing into the Substack space, in this long read, I explore disagreement within the LGBTQ community through the lens of fear, shame, belonging, and social identity. As a gay leatherman and psychiatrist, I have been reflecting on why conversations within queer spaces can so quickly move from ideas to accusations, and why communities built…

Every few days now, I seem to read another post from a gay man explaining why he no longer supports Pride. It has become too political. Too trans. Too activist. Too vulgar. Too full of drag queens, kinksters, flags, pronouns, shouting, spectacle and shameful excess. It no longer represents people like him, he says. He is just a normal gay man who wants to get on with his life. And somewhere…