Blog Entry #10: Relationship with Peers
Cliques and Crowds can be seen in every social setting you go to, even if in some places it isn’t as obvious as others. In my old schools, it’s not that easy to distinguish “crowds”, as most of the groups are filled with different type of people. What was prevalent however, were cliques. Specific groups of friends who always hang out together. I had my own “clique”. My best friends from my classes who always hang out together and were very obvious that we were friends. My old school, however, had this thing about making their students very kind and inclusive, so there was not really such a thing as “my group” and ”your group” since essentially we all kind of mixed every now and then.
What we did have, however, was the type of friends we associate ourselves with. This became even more evident when we had all moved on to college. I have realized that I am attracted to befriending a certain type of person, and very easily avoid specific type of people that I don’t see myself getting along with, even if I haven’t tried talking to them yet.
The people I often approach and associate myself with are the slightly… odd types. They’re very open with expressing their love for fictional worlds or fangirling over celebrities, and overall show that they don’t care about how they appear to others when they get excited about something. I also usually look for people that would consider themselves as “loners”, as I find them easier to talk to and get along with than people who are very popular and act like it.
I’ve come to admit to myself that I avoid certain crowds of people that bond over something I can’t relate to, such as sports or tech, as I don’t see myself being able to get excited with whatever they get excited over the most. The problem with this I suppose is that I don’t bother trying to reach out to more people, since I am comfortable with the amount of friends I already have that I’ve already have mutual interests with. It is rare for me to reach out to other people, unless they introduce themselves to me first, or one of my friends brings us together. I am able to get along with a lot of people, but very often I don’t put that much effort into introducing myself with people without a reason. I get very easily intimidated by other people and I usually believe that I’m safe in my own little bubble of friends. This may not be the happiest way to put it, but I feel as though we have our cliques and so because those who have mutual interests are the ones who can give the best forms of support systems, and I like it this way.
