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Some of our readers may remember that my wife would often lock me for long random periods, so we never bothered keeping track of dates or anything. Neither of us know when my "permanent" situation started because it started off as just another locked period after a little break; it really took over two years before my wife talked herself through whatever she was feeling about it living this way forever. It started in February or maybe March of 2018, but since we don't have the exact date, we picked April 1 as the anniversary (Lockiversary) because it's easy to remember.

Since we last chatted I made the decision to keep my own husband "penetration free." He has been in chastity for maybe eight or nine years and quite frankly, as you probably noticed yourself, the longer you leave them caged the more it messes with their ability to last in bed. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed the toys and having him go down on me, but I also enjoy getting fucked, so I took your advice and ordered a Vixskin Ranger like yours. Within a month I decided that my husband would no longer have "pussy privileges."

Unlike some of the other women that have written in to you, I really did not feel guilty about this. I've always been a bit on the dominant side and my husband has always been willing to follow my lead. I explained to him that he gives me a lot more pleasure wearing his replacement cock, and the caged one just is way too out of practice now. I told him that regular sex with him was just not pleasurable enough for me because of how long (or not!) he lasted and my needing to clean up after. And yes, I also told him that the Ranger is bigger which was also a factor in my decision. So like with you and your husband, only the Ranger will have pussy privileges - his own dick will be penetration free.

Yes, I understand that he was upset by this for a while. He felt sexually frustrated (hah! so did I!) but he also felt embarrassed that he could no longer last long enough for me. Worse, he realized that this was his fantasy - well, at least part of it, since he begged me to be more of a dominatrix in the bedroom. But he also saw that wearing the "replacement" gave me a lot of satisfaction and he learned how to use it really well. Eventually he got over not being allowed pussy privileges anymore, and now he feels proud that he can wear me out.

I have not decided - yet - to keep him caged permanently. Right now I am unlocking him monthly and giving him a quick hand job. I read a comment from your husband on another post that said something about wearing latex gloves so that it would be a reminder to him that he no longer gets to feel me. I'm planning to try that to see how that works out. As long as he gets to come he may not even care. You know how men are lol!

The truth is that I could unlock my husband and let him fuck me, but the feeling of being in control of such a basic male thing is a huge power trip for me. I love my husband very much, and I know that he loves me. This is just one aspect of our relationship that just happened to work out in an unconventional way.

To any of the women reading this who feel guilty about denying their husbands, I just want to say that it's important to check in with your husbands, but it's also important to be firm with them. They WANT to please you, they really do! Yes, they miss activity with their dicks, but you can figure out ways around that. Or not - apparently Mrs Edge here never touches her husband at all, and they seem to have an amazing relationship!

Thanks for letting me tell my story here. And as I told you in the DM, I'm posting this anonymously because I'm tired of the pervs sending me messages.

Ms D

Hi Ms Donna, it's nice to hear from you again. I remember some of our chats and trying to explain to you why I didn't feel that the way I denied Tom was too extreme. I guess somehow I got into the mindset that the Vixskin was "him" and so it never felt to me that he was denied penetration... and Tom never really said anything about feeling denied that way, so I've just never really looked at it that way.

I am learning that a lot of men who fantasize about being locked up really have a hard time when their wives or partners take those denial fantasies seriously. Some men manage to live selflessly and to focus on giving their partner pleasure. I'm thankful that my husband is like this and has always been attentive and focused on making me satisfied.

Also I like that you realize that denying your husband privileges could be upsetting to him and are trying to keep your connection to him by unlocking him for regular orgasms. Even if they aren't what he would prefer, the idea that you care enough to touch him that way lets him know that you still care about his pleasure. And I like to think that most of us want to give pleasure to our partners. It's just that pleasure looks different for some of us.

Please let me know how your experiment with the gloves works out for you.