Nov 8, 2023
…it really feels like, as an adult member of a two-person household where the other person has earlier in the day communicated that they expect to be busy throughout much of the evening with work calls and the dinner plan is reheating leftovers, i ought to be able to leave the house for a grand total of four (4) hours (getting back after dark, yes—not hard these days!—but before 9 PM) without being greeted when i get back by being asked to ~be more communicative about what i’m up to~ :/
#like no a big thing was not made of it and yes i do get very prickly abt this#but it’s like. why are we SO stiflingly codependent!!! you can text me and ask if you’re so fussed!!#but his not doing that doesn’t count as being bad at communication somehow#anyway basically it’s a predictable combination of still not really seeing me as an adult bc i’m a Problem Child#and his own anxious insecurity that makes him really strongly inclined to codependence#and he’s much less overtly unpleasant about it than my mother was#but like. i’m an adult with whom you had no dinner plans and to whom you had communicated you’d be busy at home all evening!#i feel like i should be able to go out for‚ again‚ a grand total of four hours without having to report in!#blergh.#journaling#domesticities#a consistent family tag
