#bilbobawks

Sir, did you know you are a cat?

I do believe this is the bravest thing I’ve ever seen in my life. An anon black-pilled “radfem” wishing death upon a six year old child and a rando dude she’s never met in her life.

The stunning courage it took to type up this message.

The brazen bravery it took to click the anon button.

The sheer strength it took to hit send.

I salute you, my brave sister in arms, for the unfathomable strength it took to send this message to a middle-aged woman with a dozen followers. We are all greatly moved by your moral fiber and conviction that my six year old son deserves to die.

What strength!

What intelligence!

Her boldness burns bright with a fury like the sun!

May we all cower and weep before the might and fury of her wisdom, for surely this is the brightly burning banner under which we as woman shall march forth and claim our rightful place in society, murdering children as we go!

HUZZAH I SAY!!!

We don’t do that anymore. We don’t tell young girls that a male being abusive towards her is anything other than just that: a male being abusive.

I didn’t flip the table, but I did flip my shit and told the young girl that no, that did NOT mean the boy liked her, if he DID like her he would be treating her with kindness and respect and that if he was treating her poorly then he’s a jackass and a waste of her time and to get back out there and play and come get me if he started bullying her again. When she smiled and ran back to play, I turned on the grandma and was like “what the actual FUUUUUUUCCCKK???? Did your own daughter NOT just escape a highly abusive situation where she was TRAPPED and held prisoner in another country by a man who claimed to love her but then murdered her puppy right in front of her and then almost dislocated his newborn sons leg???? Did she NOT have to come to terms with the fact that his abuse DID NOT equate to LOVE?? That it was, in fact, STRAIGHT UP ABUSE??? And now you’re going to go and fuck up ANOTHER generation of girls by telling them that abuse = affection? That bullying means they like them??? DO YOU NOT SEE THE CONNECTION???”

She was….slightly taken aback, but fuck her. She’s racist, too, so massive fuck you to her.

I just…..I know she’s older, but my GOD, I cannot believe that in the year 2026 there are STILL people telling young girls that a boy ABUSING THEM means they LIKE HER. FUCK. I remember sitting in my room with my mom, side by side on my bed, as we prepared to go to court to get a restraining order against my abusive ex. We were talking and then she got quiet for a bit and struggled to say the next part, but finally got it out. She apologized for ever having told me that the kids at school only picked on me because they liked me. She wanted me to see how people could be intimidated by someone so unique that it threatened their sense of self, but she realized that I took it to mean that when people were mean to me, it meant they felt affection for me. She felt so bad for “being responsible” for my dating these horrible men who treated me so poorly, but like…..she was trying her best and she truly didn’t mean for it to go that way.

Sometimes we get so caught up in arguments on this site, especially on the radblr side of things., that we lose sight of what matters. And I think it would really help a lot of us to internalize this.

If the person arguing with you that het-partnered women deserve all the violence enacted against them because they are sexually attracted to the oppressor died tomorrow, would your life change?

If the person screaming at you and saying men should be allowed in women’s spaces because putting on a dress changes their biology died tomorrow, would your life change?

It’s never a bad thing to engage in debate, it keeps your mind sharp and challenges your way of thinking which helps you reinforce your beliefs. But there is a difference between debating in good faith and wasting your energy on people who simply want to drain you of your ability to function by wearing you down and exhausting you on circular arguments or nonsensical bullshit.

The questions “what should you do with blackpillers?” And “how do you deal with other feminists using misogynistic and ableist slurs?” Keep coming up in this space, over and over. Everyone has their thoughts on it, but I stand by mine: block, ignore, move on. They are not arguing in good faith, they want to play the Energy Vampire game and drain you to the point that you are ineffective in other areas of your life, and nothing you do will change their minds. The best thing for feminists to do is to distance ourselves as much as possible to avoid any association with them.

If they died tomorrow our lives wouldn’t change. Except they’d be a little more peaceful, if anything.

Next time a fellow “feminist” tries to engage you in a debate over your own humanity, or tries to shame you because you don’t pass their purity test, or starts bombarding you with incel terms about your body and sex life, ask yourself: would my life change at all if this person died? If the answer is no, stop engaging. If the answer is yes, then it is probably worth the time to engage and try to change their minds.

I’m not trying to be the Internet mom here, but some of us truly do need to log off and go out in the real world once in a while. We need to remind ourselves that there are people in our lives whose deaths WOULD affect us and focus on THEM. Not on tumblr user HetWomenDeserveWhatTheyGet.