#big-boned

Part 2

I’m not a size six And not flawlessly thin I’m big-boned and ideal Comfortable in my skin. My legs are my milk My thighs are my toast My honey hips make the moves As you make the most Of what I’ve been given To this temple, BE LOYAL!! Respecting the curves From a heritage so royal. My body’s a construction Not perfect, not thin But it’s an entity The perfect one I’m in. Big-boned or thick However…

But I also feel like it makes other people feel uncomfortable when I say it.  Like they are under the impression that I am being self-deprecating and their initial reaction is to tell me "oh no, you're not fat".  You know?  Like they feel as though fat is a dirty and terrible word.  But it's a lot like profanity in that context and intent mean a lot to me.  

If you are trying to be a bitch about it and make me feel bad for something that you think is bad, like being fat, then of course it's going to hurt my feelings.  It's not because I'm fat though.  It's because you think less of me because I'm fat.  And really that only hurts when it comes from someone who's opinion matters to me.