#betherightperson

Sir J: Jam bat ikaw di pa nagb’boyfried?

Me: “Alam ko po kasi sa sarili ko na I can’t consider myself YET to be the RIGHT PERSON to anyone.” 

Yun oh! BOOM panis! Mga pabibong sagutan, pang Miss Universe ba? Haha

Hmm… “How to be the RIGHT PERSON” nga daw ba talaga?.

To simple answer this question, to be a right person seems like your goal is to be someone who’s wanted by everyone (dahil lahat saatin ay gusto si RIGHT ONE/PERSON). It is to be someone people most ideal (pangarap ng lipunan kumbaga).

Sometimes we think that to be the right person, we should achieve perfection first. Na para ikaw ay matawag na RIGHT PERSON, you should be PERFECT. But in my opinion, that’s not true. Hindi naman talaga, dahil kung perfection ang pag-uusapan, si God lang naman ang kilala kong perpekto. Kahit nga si Superman na machong macho at lumilipad at napaka lakas ay may kahinaan din.

Kung ang perception mo sa RIGHT ONE mo is PERFECT ONE, you can NEVER find that ONE. Or if your perception to be the right person is to be a perfect one, sumali ka na sa clan na naniniwalang WALANG FOREVER dahil hindi ka po talaga magiging right person at hindi mo po talaga makikita ang right person para sayo. Dahil sabi nga NOBODY is perfect. Nobody was, nobody is, and nobody will be.

It’s like looking for something very expensive that no amount of money can afford. 

In short, for us to be able to be the right person, we should know first the possible way to be a RIGHT ONE by knowing first that it is different from being perfect, because to be the right person is possible, but to be perfect is not.

PAANO NGA BA MAGING RIGHT PERSON? 

Let us first briefly discuss where this question came from. 

Ang unang tanong kasi saakin noon ay paano daw ba mahahanap ang right person, ang sagot ko, “before you find the right person, be the right person first”, so eto na ang bagong tanong, “how to be the right person” ba?

Personally napapatanong din naman ako sa sarili ko kung ako ba mismo ay right person na para sakanya (kung sino man ang taong iyon), and siguro ikaw din, tapos sasabihin ng iba sayo, “you are good enough for me”, yung para bang sinasabi na nilang ikaw na ang right one para sakanila. Yiee nuks.(wag kang papauto bes. haha)

But it should be clear to us that there are many things we should consider first before we can say that you are already the right person.

Gaya nalang ng sitwasyon na you did everything na para masabing tamang tao ka para sakanya. You exerted enough effort, time, money, and anything you know that a right person will do. But the question is, if you did your very best for someone, can we already consider ourselves to be that “RIGHT PERSON”? hmm

Hindi naman karamihan pero meron ding iilan na after how many years of being together, being in a strong relationship, yet end up saying “you’re not the right person for me” 💔. There are many reasons why some couples end with break ups telling that they are not meant for each other pala. Can we say that it happens because we’re not the “right person” for them? Probably we could say that, but let us look at the other side, maybe the problem is not that we aren’t the right person, but we became the right person for the wrong person.

May nagsabi saakin noon, anyone can be a right one, but not right one FOR YOU, because they may be the right person, but right person for someone else. Perfect ideal mo na si ate or si kuya, nagkakasundo kayo sa maraming bagay, pero in the end, hindi pala kayo ang will ni Lord para sa isat-isa. But don’t be sad, it doesn’t mean na wala ng right one for you, hindi lang siya, pero sure meron ka. :) 

One main aspect na dapat nating i’consider is the person we are pursuing, remember that you can never be the right person if you are pursuing the wrong person. No matter how good you are, you will never be good enough for them, not because you’re not the right person, but because they are.

Another thing we should learn before becoming the right person is to know the difference between the word “desire” and “deserve”. To be the right person is everyones desire. As we lately discussed that to be the right person, its a must that we should also pursue the right person for us. Whoever that person, we should not “just desire them”, but let us assure that we can say that we also “deserve them”. 

What we desire is sometimes different from what we deserve. When I was in first year college, it was first day of 2nd semester, tinanong kami ng prof namin kung ano yung gusto (desire) naming grade for her subject, sinulat namin sa maliit na papel then pinasa namin sakanya (at syempre naman 1.00 na ang nilagay ko, kung mangangarap ka lang din naman bat di mo pa taasan diba.haha). She told us that we may not get those grades at the end of semester but we also can, she said it depends on what we deserve. 

We have our own standards when it comes sa pagpili ng ating mamahalin, pero kapag pasok na ba sya sa standard mo masasabi mo na bang siya na ang “right person”? o kapag ba pasok ka na sa standard niya ay “right person” ka na? Pwedeng oo ang sagot. But another question is, do you deserve your standard?, baka naman desire mo lang pero di naman pala tayo deserving. Hmm 😞

Pero ang sagot ko sa tanong natin na “How to be the right person?” ay ito po ay hindi proseso na TAYO ang dapat trumabaho. There are many people who could say that we are the right person for them,  pero tandaan na iisa lang ang mapapanindigan na sabihin yan hanggang huli, and it is your future partner. You’ll be the right person for that someone no matter who you are. And when it comes sa tanong na “how to be”, there’s also only ONE who could MADE you the right person, and it is the Lord and not ourselves. He will mold us to be the right person for the perfect partner whom He prepared for us. The one who could love us and accept us despite our flaws and limitations because God also mold his/her heart to be the right person for you.