The better approach of a Teacher towards the Students is to keep our voices at normal volume and tone.  Set the rules of engagement for them. Explain that you’ll be happy to listen or talk with them about the issue if they can do so in a more reasonable way.

It is not easy for them to pull all together, give them some space and time to cool down. Revisit the issue later when everything isn’t so emotionally charged.  But be sure they know you’re not blowing them off or letting them off the hook. Setting a specific time, like after dinner or the upcoming weekend could be either away, you’ve taken a power struggle and turned into something less volatile and more productive.

Dealing with children especially with the phase of teenage is not so easy. No matter how many attempts you make, how great your relationship with your children is, you are likely to face parenting roadblocks when it comes to your teenager.

Kids, who groan, complain, and generally express negativity will become adults who do the same. Parents can help teens develop a great life skill by teaching them to keep a positive attitude about school.

Here are some tips to make your teens develop positive behavior:

1. Do not overreact in the situations: The better approach is to keep our voices at normal volume and tone.  Set the rules of engagement for them. Explain that you’ll be happy to listen or talk with them about the issue if they can do so in a more reasonable way.

It is not easy for them to pull all together, give them some space and time to cool down. Revisit the issue later when everything isn’t so emotionally charged.  But be sure they know you’re not blowing them off or letting them off the hook. Setting a specific time, like after dinner or the upcoming weekend could be either away, you’ve taken a power struggle and turned into something less volatile and more productive.

2. Praise and motivate them:

Praising and Motivating has proved to be the most powerful tool in all times.  When our kids do show maturity in handling a situation, whether by initiating a respectful conversation or even knowing when they need a few minutes to calm down before talking with us, we should absolutely let them know that we are proud of them.

3. Identifying Emotions is needed:

Help your child self-express via identifying feelings and choosing words carefully when frustrated or making demands. “It’s okay to tell me how you feel, but you need to speak respectfully. Even if you’re tired or upset, try to stay calm.”

4. Guide them for a positive talk:

The way we talk can actually help us feel better or worse about our own situations. While it’s important to listen to your teen share about their day, you should not allow them to continuously vent about the negative. Teens, which begin to develop an overly negative attitude about school may easily overlook all the good things that happen. Making them realize one good thing each day, reminding things to be grateful for, and providing ideas for positive self-talk, framing mistakes for the betterment of learning experiences is essential to understand.

5. Help them to solve their problems:

Problems at school can really weigh your teen down. They may feel negative because they don’t know how to handle a situation. Perhaps they are not getting along with one of their teachers, or they had a disagreement with a friend. Whatever the situation, instead of just letting your teen complain and vent their negative attitude, use it as an opportunity to teach problem-solving skills, a vital tool they will need their entire life.

6. Encourage them to actively participate:

Looking forward to afterschool activities can make the school day feel more enjoyable. Encourage your teen to sign up for clubs, play sports, or join band. A teen who doesn’t love academics may develop a more positive attitude if they have something to look forward to at the end of the day. They can develop new friendships with teens who have similar interests or discover a mentor in the teacher who leads the club or sport, all of which keep them more engaged in school.

Teens having good critical thinking, planning, and problem-solving skills, tend to think more positively than their peers. Parents and teachers can role model and teach these skills to youth. Be sure to praise any effort your teen makes at thinking more positively. Positive thinking will help them in school and well into their future.

School Information Initiative by Sharda Vidyalaya

I'm living with my aunt right now. Her kids are fucking spoiled.

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Okay so most suburban parents spoil their kids. I know this.

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I digress. They scream at her, they yell at her, and they get what they want.

I'd like to point out that she has an asshole of an exhusband who has been trying to turn his kids against their mother. This is not one of those every divorced dad is awful stories. He's just an asshole. He would treat her badly regardless of having kids with her.

But it's still difficult to hear the fighting every night before bed and every morning before school. At dinner time, at breakfast time, etc. Even over the TV.

You obviously cannot control other people, no matter small or young they are. You can try to get them to do what you want them to do, but they will make choices that you may not like whether you like it or not. But these kids need some discipline. They need someone to make them realize that they are mere children in a world of adults.