The lengths fandom will go to not to include women is wild to me. It's a small thing I saw this a while ago, but it will not leave my brain, someone saying they don't want to give Jason!Robin and Barbara a relationship/explore it because it's "a retcon". My dude, Jason (as we know him) is a retcon. Jason's entire backstory is a retcon! Jason coming back from the dead is a retcon! If you're a fan on Jason, you're a fan of some retcons, because the boy is retcons all the way down!
That plus there are indications Babs and Jason knew each other even in the 80s stories. It was all offscreen because DC hated Babs and women so she wasn't being given any real stories and interactions with the others as Batgirl. Like "The Last Batgirl story" is actually all about how she's useless and irrelevant because Dick and Jason already are on the scene of crimes before she can even get there (indicating she knew the new Robin even if she wasn't shown directly interacting with him in that story.) Then the Killing Joke happened. The reason Jason and Babs weren't given screentime together is 100% down to misogyny, so why would you want to honor that?
But, yeah, even with all that, there are still significant signs in that era they had a relationship offscreen. She was one of the few people who attended Jason's funeral, and considering she'd just gotten shot in the spine, so recently that wouldn't be surprised if she was still hospitalized at the time, and with how much effort it must have taken to drag herself out to be there while dealing with all that, I would like to think it wasn't just to support Bruce but because she actually knew Jason and cared about him. It makes no sense that they wouldn't have known each other, like I'd think Jason would have at least wanted to give his condolences after the Killing Joke etc, she's a friend of the family and Jason was around for a year at the very very least while she was an active hero in Gotham.
All that plus the earliest retcon giving Jason and Babsgirl a story together was 1989, only a year after Jason died.
(Not to mention there are high chances any Red Hood fan swears by UTRH and that story has him explicitly call Babs a "friend" and include what happened to her as a reason why the Joker shouldn't be alive (valid of him). So I guess if you want to throw out a Jaybin and Babs friendship you have to throw out UTRH too, those are the rules I just made up)
Anyway it's much easier to just say you don't care about Babs or about Jason's relationships with women, just be honest.







