#avoiding relationships

Mistakes in a Relationship | What Mistakes Women Do In a Relation

In every relationship, theres comes ups and down that sometimes cause misunderstanding or sometimes separation between the couples. And after passing the time people realize their mistake. But then time had gone. So, after the next parting, no meditation will save you from the intrusive question “What went wrong?”. Let’s get this straight. Before you, the typical mistakes of women in a…

Perhaps Disney screwed me over portraying the damsel in distress and the prince charming that comes to save her, but I've long held to the notion that some man would appear in my life and erase all of the self-doubt and trust issues that plague my existence. In my mind, this perfect person would somehow understand from the instant our eyes locked that I have a hard time letting go of insecurities and he would continue to pursue me despite my ennui. Just as in the movies, I would enchant him with my beguiling evasiveness, troubled soul, and general brooding personality. 

Now, let's snap back to reality.If you are indeed this kind of person, such as myself, who feels a stabbing discomfort each time you across a particularly enthralling guy with the potential for something more, you need to work on something quite simple: show your interest. Simply expecting an unsaid and unexpressed connection only leads to tears and frustration because most likely this man you like does not work as a mind reader for his side job. As someone similarly in this struggle, I know that for dark and twisty people this admission of like presents a formidable challenge. It means vulnerability and preparing oneself for the high possibility of rejection, but the side effect of staying quiet also pushes us back into that hole of wallowing and confusion. 

So, be bold. Do it. Tell that person how you feel. Practice in front of the mirror. Voice record yourself. Express to your friends how much you appreciate them. Start small, but at least get the process going and understand that nobody likes a Debby Downer, even if deep on the inside she has the best intentions and the most love to give. You have to show it. 

What is a Commitment-phobe?[i] And how can YOU be one? Simply follow the guidelines below.

                                          Step One:

Have a long-term tumultuous relationship, preferably long distance. Additionally, you need to have some sort of emotional block whilst your boyfriend should be emotionally needy. The situation must be to a point where he calls you a robot (lovingly, you hope?). It is helpful that you have on occasion made him cry (not maliciously) because of your lack of sensitivity to and understanding of what would upset a normal human.

                                          Step Two:

In reaction to said relationship, follow the rules listed below: