There was a graphic that went completely viral in both the autism parent and theater communities of Facebook a while ago, which makes occas
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"We do gain skills without necessarily being drilled or pushed, just in ways that might not be apparent to observers.Ā Just because progress or learning arenāt being displayed to others does not mean they arenāt happening.Ā An ability probably wasnāt learned or gained at the moment it was first displayed, but has been āunder construction,ā internally, for a long time.Ā Things that are intuitive and easy to typical people can require long periods of interior fermentation and distillation in order to develop, and then for us to feel safe or comfortable enough to use them.
And then seemingly suddenly, when the time or circumstances are right, there they are, like a night-blooming flower.
That uncertainty about whether they will ever show themselves doesnāt make it a miracle when they do; it means it took the time or circumstances it took for that to happen.
Iāve also said before that I feel that very few of my autistic traits are, themselves, positive or negative.Ā Theyāre all double-edged swords.Ā Disabling or painful in one context, necessary or pleasurable in a different context.Ā
Amanda Baggs has characterized autism not as a specific set of permanent deficits, but as a particular way that the brain allocates cognitive resources.Ā *
That an autistic person might suddenly display an ability theyād never outwardly demonstrated before, or be able to do something under extremely specific circumstances or specific kinds of stress that they canāt do under typical, everyday circumstances, is neither magic nor miraculous.Ā Itās a common aspect of being autistic, and itās one of my favorite parts.Ā Itās part of how being autistic works that distinct skills can develop at atypical times, and seemingly in isolation from other aspects of development, or are usable in extremely specific contexts when they arenāt normally.
Part of presuming competence is maintaining awareness that just because a skill has never manifested itself yet, does not mean that it never will.Ā And that just because someone might, in fact, never gain some particular skill, does not mean that they wonāt gain others."
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